Male Intergenerational Intimacy Book

An interesting text that I think starts to become meta at some point in the book. It starts off about killing the phantasy of the child we hold onto as adults, a result of an unconscious projection of the desire of the mother, and it ends with Leclaire's views on transference: namely, since it is unavoidable there is hardly any reason in denying the inherently sexed aspect of the analyst-analysand relationship (this does not mean giving in to countertransference, but some of the stuff Leclaire said seemed like it was going in that way). This child we must kill ends up taking detours through love and (as mentioned) transference love, being constituted as a subject, and the death drive. This seems to me primarily an exploration of the feminine, since the ultimate question (that remains unanswered or unanswerable) is "What does a woman want?" Leclaire offers some tentative guesses, but I think he comes down on the side that ultimately we (or more specifically male analysts) cannot know. All male analysts can do is proffer an impotence that will never satisfy their "jouissance in suffering", which, he argues, is the source of speech (for women? for humans? I'm not sure.)

Pretty new to psychoanalysis and theory, so this is likely all wrong. Very interesting and cool book though, beautiful writing and very cool phrases peppered throughout, and Nata Minor's post-script is very good as well, ending the book with evocative imagery and beauty:

"At the very moment where eyes are torn out, where wolves and masks suddenly fly off, the real appears in its extreme concision, more surprising and uncanny than fiction, with its procession of sounds, words, and images like closed lips barred by an index finger."