What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce Book

	Introduction	XI
Part 1	The Breakup	1
Chapter 1	Take Care of Yourself	3
Chapter 2	Telling the Children	19
Chapter 3	The Developmental Ladder	31
Chapter 4	Zero to Three	43
Chapter 5	Three-, Four-, and Five-Year-Olds	51
Chapter 6	Six-, Seven-, and Eight-Year-Olds	63
Chapter 7	Nine- and Ten-Year-Olds	73
Chapter 8	Eleven-, Twelve-, and Thirteen-Year-Olds	87
Chapter 9	Fourteen-, Fifteen-, Sixteen-, and Seventeen-Year-Olds	99
Chapter 10	College-Age Children	113
Chapter 11	Vulnerable Children	121
Chapter 12	What Is the "Best" Time to Divorce?	127
Chapter 13	Setting Routines and Structure	133
Chapter 14	Supporting the New Family	141
Part 2	Parent-to-Parent	155
Chapter 15	A New Kind of Parent	157
Chapter 16	You and the Law	163
Chapter 17	Laying the Foundation for Custody and Coparenting	175
Chapter 18	Custody	185
Chapter 19	High-Conflict Divorce	203
Chapter 20	How to Choose the Right Custody for Your Child	215
Part 3	The Post-Divorce Family	221
Chapter 21	Take Another Close Look at Your Children and at Yourself	223
Chapter 22	The Overburdened Child	231
Chapter 23	Parent-Child Alignments	239
Chapter 24	A New Kind of Teenager	247
Chapter 25	A New Kind of Father	259
Chapter 26	A New Kind of Mother	269
Part 4	Second Marriage	275
Chapter 27	Dating and Sex	277
Chapter 28	Remarriage	289
Chapter 29	Insiders and the Remarried Family	299
Chapter 30	Stepparents	311
Chapter 31	Blending Two Families	323
Chapter 32	Holidays and Special Occasions	333
Part 5	Conversations for a Lifetime	339
Chapter 33	How to Protect Children of Divorce in Young Adulthood	341
	Epilogue	363
	Index	365