Reviews for The Boy in the Window: A Journey Through an Unexpected Tragedy

The average rating for The Boy in the Window: A Journey Through an Unexpected Tragedy based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2008-02-23 00:00:00 Sam Rosas This book was raw and intense in its revelations. But it suffers from a fatal flaw: the road to recovery was relegated to 9.5 pages of the 210-page memoir. And only one of those paragraphs was devoted to the pain she felt at stopping the promiscuity and attempting to face the aching emptiness without being distracted by a man. She ironically writes: "Days pass. I spend time with my friends. I teach. I read novels and work on my own. I even try reading a self-help book about how to find love. The gist is that when you can love yourself entirely only then can others love you too. Duh. Any moron knows that. But HOW to love yourself after a lifetime of self-degradation and effacement? That would be a book worth reading." Yes, it would. This was her chance to write that book. But she didn't. Instead, she wrote in detail of years of promiscuity and emptiness and unfulfilled longing for love, then glossed over her break from promiscuity in a few paragraphs. The most she wrote about dealing with the aching emptiness of wanting, all of her life, to feel loved was: "Some days, I sit in my small apartment with my loneliness, an unwanted guest, the pain intense enough that I keep my arms wrapped around my middle." Two pages later, she meets the man she married less than a year later. This book had the potential to help people figure out HOW to learn to love yourself, HOW to deal with the aching emptiness without being rescued by a knight in shining armor. Instead, she wrote the book like a fairy tale: after years of hell, she gets the love she has been craving all of her life. I applaud her honesty in detailing her promiscuous years and how it affected her along the way, but the important part, the part about how she managed to heal and find love, is sorely lacking the details that would make this book truly useful to me.

Review # 2 was written on 2008-04-25 00:00:00 Alan Haywood Apropos the naysayers of this book, it would be easy to criticize or impugn or second-guess Kerry Cohen's motives for writing it. I don't pretend to fully know what those motives were, and frankly I really don't care. The book is exactly what it says it is -- a memoir of promiscuity -- and unless you're too dense to read the title before you even crack the spine then I'm hardly amenable to taking seriously any whining you have about her behavior or character. Cohen writes about what it means to want and need acceptance as a young girl, not understanding the game and making mistakes while figuring it all out -- or trying to. She isn't always admirable in her pursuit of same -- and she says so -- and to criticize the book because you may not like her or think she's hypocritical is disingenuous and absurd, and ultimately irrelevant to the point. I always detect the whiff of self-righteous moralistic hypocrisy in readers who knowingly pick up books on sexual topics with sexual protagonists and then proceed to criticize the books for being sexual and having sexual protagonists! Although much of this covers familiar territory, I think she brings a lot of issues under the microscope with unforced ease and thankfully does not delve too hamfistedly into pop psychology. She writes it unpretentiously, cohesively and vividly. She keeps the narrative moving, provides a good sense of place without overdescription, and elucidates clearly what she is seeing and feeling. She captures well the contradictory impulses of growing up, and I really felt by reading this that I understood what was going on inside the head of a young girl. I sensed a true individual in the pages, even though the issues are common and have been written about millions of times. Unlike another book I recently read -- David Henry Sterry's Chicken, about the life of a teen boy prostitute -- this book avoids mixed messages about the protagonist's familial influences and the bits we get clarify rather than confuse. As a man and as a reader, I found the book illuminating; it took me somewhere I have never been and can never go, and that's what I want from nonfiction. The book is honest and earnest and surprisingly non-sensational, and, truth be told, I went into it with a prurient interest and came out of it getting more than that, and that is the mark of a good book. Good job.