Reviews for Texas women who dared to be first

The average rating for Texas women who dared to be first based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2017-09-21 00:00:00 Allan Dumas Mixed views on this book. 2.5 stars rounded up. It's not really simple or revolutionary. There are some nuggets of wisdom, but you have to fight to find them and ignore some nonsense. It'd make a good book club read to see which sections offended most. The initial premise is that we have energy, masculine and feminine. This is far more subtle than dominance, so don't go there. The idea is one person in a marriage (regardless of gender or orientation) needs to be masculine energy. And the other needs to be feminine. The authors say right-handed, younger men and career-focused women have masculine energies. The masculine is the head of household. The feminine does whatever the masculine says unless it's illegal or immoral. The book really deteriorates in the middle. In some places, the masculine can demand the feminine express no opinions, while the opposite is the case elsewhere in the book. The book gives ideas for the feminine to manipulate. The book says the masculine can impose any requirement (weight, etc) that isn't illegal or immoral. To me, none of this is ok. It sounded more like a twisted game than a relationship. The feminine can't nag or mother. That's fair, neither makes for a loving relationship. But the example was to let the house fall down around you, rather than nag about home repairs. The assumption was the masculine would save the day and fix the house. As someone whose home and biggest asset was literally rotting and falling down as I learned nagging my spouse didn’t work, but I only tried it after being quiet and patient didn’t work for several years, I find it stupid (reprehensible but not illegal) to recommend that anyone watch their biggest asset in divorce become totally worthless. I unintentionally did exactly what the book said, and the result was financially devastating. Hilariously, the authors have some special term for a sh!t sandwich, the time-honored tradition of appreciating the person before saying the tough/bad message and ending on a note of asking for help or thanking them for being open to the discussion. Surprisingly, the last part of the book was a lot better. Written by someone else, maybe? Couples need to negotiate time, sex, chores, etc. Everything. Forgiveness is a self-centered concept that should be left to God or people who don't know what love is -- either accept the person as 51% lovable or reject them as 51% toxic, unlovable, and unacceptable. Harsh, but finally a useful message without doormats or games.

Review # 2 was written on 2020-03-16 00:00:00 Russell Gaspard Marriage