Reviews for Planning Your Will with Your Family in Mind: How Your Estate Planning Decisions Will Affect the Ones You Love

The average rating for Planning Your Will with Your Family in Mind: How Your Estate Planning Decisions Will Affect the Ones You Love based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2016-11-03 00:00:00 Russell Cartledge Full disclosure, I "read" this by skimming many of the chapters. I didn't learn anything new or particularly amazing, but it was some positive validation because we are already taking this approach to parenting. Honestly, it's not rocket science, but it is relentless and trying: kids need firm limits, but they need you to be gentle. Physical or verbal punishment (especially for 0-3 year-olds) just doesn't work. It's exhausting, but we need to constantly teach them the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior, and realize that toddlers really aren't trying to drive us crazy -- they just do sometimes. The statement "The first three years last forever" did strike a chord.

Review # 2 was written on 2017-05-11 00:00:00 Tammy Doyle Useful, practical advice. The only thing that bothered me was the way children's behavior was described as "misbehavior" instead of how the behavior was experienced for the child (what needs the child was trying to fulfill using that particular behavior) and then examining why that particular behavior was a problem for the family, society, etc.. I feel like framing it through the child's eyes invites more empathy to the situation, while still focusing on solutions. Hearing the word "misbehavior" over and over was off-putting to me. With that said, I'm glad I did not discount this book because of that caveat. The author has given more practical advice than any other discipline book I've read that does not rely on punishments or rewards. I found the tips to stop nagging, stop rescuing, stop lecturing, getting a life, and act don't talk particularly enlightening. Her tips about family meetings and morning and bedtime routines have enhanced what we were already doing--she has a lot of gems in there. Furthermore, the style of this book is particularly useful because it is easy to find tips on a particular issue when needed. And, of course, the first section is indispensable. I'm sure this is a reference book that I will refer to during my entire parenting career.