Reviews for The Ways and Power of Love

The average rating for The Ways and Power of Love based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2021-07-03 00:00:00 Pam Lindsey Quotes: "We are harmed BY our mistakes, not FOR our mistakes. We are rewarded BY our virtue, not FOR our virtue." (p. 8) "Love is a SHARING process, not a receiving event." (p. 23) "...need to learn that in a loving relationship, people do make agreements to help the relationship work better, but they do not sacrifice personal integrity or deny their feelings." (p. 26) "We do not become pure in heart by pretending to be a saintly person." (p. 29) "Real love knows the difference between strengthening and weakening choices... Loving fills needs before wants. Loving is a state of deep trust and solid faith that... inevitable conflicts can be resolved without anyone losing." (p. 34) "When we try to be real and approved at the same time, frustration is the obvious result." (p. 42) "Instead of allowing relationships to control the issues, we allow issues to control over relationships... Learn to recognize key moments when the little things threaten to take control." (p. 54) "The ability to be accepting of another, independent of that person's behavior, comes slowly to most of us and is the result of a long series of insights and lessons learned from seeing the results of our judgmental relationships." (p. 60) "Mental force in the form of withholding love and approval is probably the most common form of force." (p. 60) "Many of our differences exist only in our perspective or in our choice of words." (p. 61) "Freedom is impossible without discipline." (p. 66) "The higher self, my spirit self, quietly and lovingly looks at the characteristics of the divisive lesser self, takes them into control, and lovingly unifies them." (p. 87) "I choose to think of the abundance of talent, beauty, and caring that is within me and to make my choices based on those attributes instead of my deficiencies." (p. 88) "At the love level, we quietly celebrate, in the present tense, whatever minutes we can share in the forest with the deer, having outgrown the desire to capture nature in any way." (p. 90) "The quality of my experience depends much more on the level of my self-acceptance and my awareness of 'being' than on my external circumstances. Not 'Who am I' anymore [but] 'What am I part of and what is part of me?'" (p. 91) "We first need to decide that we want to be the kind of person who creates a feeling of psychological safety for one's self as well as others... draw to ourselves the conditions of life that allow us to feel accepted and valued, warts and all." (p. 92) "We don't think about CREATING a safe place for our family - we simple ARE a safe place for them." (p. 98) "Many people have good intentions, but they weaken friends and family with advice, sympathy, or nifty plans. They impose their own solutions, pat others on the back, assure them that everything will be all right, and then go about their business, often unaware that the person they wanted to help remains weak and dependent and lacks self-reliance..." (p. 110) "The gift of real love is the gift of strength... I help you to recognize your own strength." (p. 112) "What happens to me is up to me. The only time I can control is now. I can control my life." (p. 150)

Review # 2 was written on 2012-07-18 00:00:00 Kathleen Pollock This is not a very long book, neither is it complicated. But the author gives some great examples of how love works and what a person can do when they truly want to love. He also does a great job of explaining what love isn't - which most people need to know, too.