Reviews for Sexual Physiology

The average rating for Sexual Physiology based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2012-11-13 00:00:00 Tod Sears I've heard a lot about the "pickup artist" movement, especially on feminist sites, and couldn't contain my curiosity. Alas, these books are frequently checked out of the library, so I had to wait my turn. The basic theories of the book are soundly grounded in recognized psychological and evolutionary theory. Firstly, women are attracted to men who seem like they'd be good mates and providers. Just as men can't help being attracted to big boobs, even if they're fake, women can't help but be attracted to men who demonstrate a high social value. Much of this book, especially in the first part, is about how to improve your perceived social value by being extroverted, confident, and most importantly, not doing things to make yourself look weak, creepy, needy, or undesirable. For example, no lurking, skulking, fidgeting, or extravagant compliments to strangers. The basic structure of the seduction is as such: go to a "target-rich" environment and quickly (within 3 seconds) choose a woman you are attracted to. Using well-rehearsed stories (openers) you make friends with her group while ignoring or disregarding her. When she gives you indicators of interest (IOI), you then begin to talk to her. Over the course of about seven hours, you win her over by building comfort through shared experiences and small compliance tests, and then you arrange to have her go to the seduction location. This usually involves a second day and multiple scene changes. It's been a long time since I read THE RULES, which supposed to be the female counterpart to this movement. Both of them presume that all a woman has to do to get suitors is "be pretty" and "go to a bar." This hasn't been my experience, but then again, I wasted my college years studying and travelling overseas instead of partying every night. Presumably women who followed the traditional college trajectory had to beat men off with a stick. As such, there's not a whole lot a woman could take from this about how to attract men. Maybe women could use this if they wanted to attract women, and they could certainly benefit from practice in talking to strangers, but it's not going to get women closer to finding a boyfriend. In this world, women sit there and look pretty and men pick the one they want. One of the degrading/objectifying/sexist tropes of this book is that you rate women on a scale of 1-10, or rather, you rate them on a scale of 6-10, and anything below a 6 you don't bother with. The strategies are different for women who are a 9 or 10 vs. a woman who is "merely" a 7 or an 8. Prettier women apparently need to be aggressively dismissed or ignored, because they're so used to being adored that its lack will draw their attention quickly. The other trope that raises hackles is the neg. Personally, some of the techniques he uses to neg would make me respond with somewhere between a pout and tears. For example, asking a girl to do something, and when the obeyed action has an undesirable result, laughing at how dumb she was to fall for it.I must not be a 10, because a man treating me this way would not make me think "why is he unaffected by my beauty? He must be able to get any girl he wants." but "what an ass" and "If he's treating me this way when he wants to attract me, how much worse would he treat me after he got what he wanted?" Mystery makes assumptions about his readers. The obvious one is that his target reader is a hetero man, presumably young(ish?) who wants to sleep with beautiful women. I grant that for 98% of the readers, this is true. But he also assumes that the reader lives in a large city with an inexhaustible supply of "targets." If there are only a handful of eligible women in your town, you don't get a chance to practice. And you would need a lot of practice to make this work. Lots and lots of practice. For an introvert (like me) just going up to strangers and talking to them is extremely difficult and draining. Mystery recommends four hours a night, four nights a week to just practice "opening sets" (making the acquaintance of a group of strangers.) I think that unless you're an extrovert with a lot of time on his hands, you're going to have to work your way up to that. You probably also want a mentor to let you know when you're doing it wrong. I think sometimes people get so wrapped up in what they want and their own desires that they forget to watch and listen. It's not a terrible goal, however, and I say this as a feminist. Shocking as it may seem to the unlaid set, women do not say to themselves "Well, I spent over an hour agonizing over my outfit and putting on make-up and doing my hair and jewelry to go out to a bar. I just hope I don't meet an attractive man who seduces me. That would be awful!" Having more men out there who are capable of seducing women isn't a bad thing. This writer doesn't strike me as a guy who dislikes women. He even says that a one-night-stand is not the goal, but an intimate relationship with a beautiful woman. There are distasteful parts of it. The idea of dog-training another person into doing what you want them to do is creepy, as is the idea of a supposedly spontaneous date that the guy you just met has been on with countless other women. I guess it must work, but it seems so false. I recommend this as a beginning primer for men who are hopeless in meeting women. Absolutely read the glossary first. Mystery will SLAM you with buzzwords, TLAs (three letter acronyms) and other made-up terms that he presumes you already know.

Review # 2 was written on 2009-03-11 00:00:00 Chocolate Delish Fascinating pick up artist social marketing guide. The digital era of Casanova wannabes spawns one Erik von Markovik into fame, as the illustrious Mystery, the teacher and leader of the lady killers. A dating consultant who holds high dollar seminars and real time practice in the field, Mystery has written what is revered in the online community as the seduction bible. It contains explicit descriptions of his techniques, jargon, lines, approaches, and everything under the sun to attract and pick up women. The result of mastering the skills is creating instant physical and emotional attraction in the all-important first 30 minutes of social interaction with a new target. (babe). He then walks you through the steps all the way to the close. Whether your pursuit of women is your destiny, or a part-time sport, this is a college course you must take. For this genre, I recommend the Mystery Method and two more. The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. This is a fascinating journey by an author with marginal skills with the ladies (despite fame), who sets out on a life changing mission to master picking up women using the Mystery Method. The characters are philanderers, gigolos, wannabes, braggarts, and every dysfunctional category in between. Their quest is obvious, and thrust in your face; to sleep with as many beautiful women as possible. The author Strauss has written several best sellers, as well as for Rolling Stone, and literally has no competition when it comes to spinning tales of this type. The other thought provoking mindbender that catapults your hooking up skills is The_Professional_Bachelor_Dating_Guide_How_to_Exploit_Her_Inner_Psycho. This is a devious sexual persuasion guide for hooking up, written by a psych doc who cruised the nightclubs with great success for a decade. It also contains an asset protection guide to set up pre-marriage to shield you from divorce. Get these three, and get ready to laugh and learn. Really interesting books. The Game