Reviews for In a time of fallen heroes

The average rating for In a time of fallen heroes based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2017-12-29 00:00:00 Milo Lawson Alon Gratch's If Men Could Talk tells the story of himself, a psychologist who particularly studies the thoughts of his male patients. The book is set mainly in his office at anytime, where patients speak about their issues for long periods of time. Hoping to reveal the repressed thoughts and emotions of men, Alon Gratch compiles and studies the different cases of his many patients. He reveals some conversations and quotes from his patients and explains the hidden meanings or connection to their past life as children or younger men, a better insight on why men may act like they do at times. The book examines frustrating situations both men and women can relate to and gives a few techniques or advice to help their male partner open up or speak what they are actually thinking. Ultimately the story of the analysis of men is a story of examples of men acting disagreeably, giving insight on these actions, helping us deal with them, and notifying us that there is a deeper meaning in what males say. It all adds up to psychology of frustrating males, a way for us to better understand and even solve problems involving them. If Men Could Talk tells these ideas and in full detail, allowing us to rethink and reconsider our thoughts regarding men, whether negative or positive, and open themselves up for a healthier and more "free" life. If I could recommend If Men Could Talk, I would, particularly to females, though it would be perfectly interesting and enjoyable to men as well, because I feel that book is would be extremely interesting to them with examples that are possibly relatable to one. The book gives in great detail, the possible reasons why men act in ways that they do. For example, if a man keeps demanding his wife or girlfriend to dress or talk in the way the he wants even if she does not want to. As stated before, the book gives examples with real life patients with problems with things such as relationships or social misunderstandings, some of which may remind you, as it did to me, of male friends, acquaintances, or family members. It may clear up misunderstandings or give you a new perspective on how you view males from negative to positive, or vice versa, given how you felt about each patient and their reasons. The book also gives advice on how to deal with difficult matters involving them, such as when your father may be angry at his family because something at work is not going well. In this matter one should encourage the father to open up about it, and complain to the family instead of projecting the frustrations at the family. The most memorable moment in the book for me was when Gratch explained a case in which the boyfriend of a couple was shaming his girlfriends, a case that struck me as interesting due to the fact that a few of my close friends had been subjected to the same kind of treatment by their own boyfriends. Gratch consistently talked about these flaws and later the patients' childhood and connections of it to their current action. The patient was defending his self-esteem with a defense mechanism I won't go to far in about. This bit just stood out me, since I could somewhat relate, and understand why these actions occur. The examples and explanations given changed some thoughts on what I had about male relatives, especially when my dad can be particularly annoying or rude to my mother. I felt a bit more empathetic and understanding to their actions, and I feel as if I became more aware of a man's feelings. Men are human too, they can't always "man up." I learned as I became more aware, and it was due to this book. I was able to receive more knowledge about psychological facts about humans, which did quite interest me! I also learned not to become to judgmental quickly. As cliché as it is, "Don't judge a book by it cover," in this case the cover is a man's words or actions. There could be an underlying emotion or meaning under what they say or do, and this opened my eyes up. I for one don't always agree with what my dad says when he's upset about himself, but I learned to be more patient, and eventually he did open up about his problems. I often hear "I don't understand men," a somewhat overused statement I hear or see bit too often in life or teenage fan fiction. Perhaps this book could shine some light and offer some insight as it has done so for me.

Review # 2 was written on 2014-03-02 00:00:00 Andrea Ryon This book showed me that behind my ample displays of masculinity there may be shame and uncertainty which I try to cover up. That each grandeur has a little brother - the opposite quality - lurking in the shadow just behind it. To overcome this inner conflict you need to reach out to the shadowy side, embrace the weakness and invite it into the light. Being a man means being also a woman and only if you cultivate both sides of you you can reach the resolution of the conflict. I'm very much positively biased towards the Jungian way of seeing things so I read the book with delight. On the other hand - the theory in this book is clumsy, the layout of ideas is like a bumpy road - at my great relief the author patched the road with a lot of clinical examples which makes it readable like a novel.