Reviews for When Pleasing You Is Killing Me: A Workbook

The average rating for When Pleasing You Is Killing Me: A Workbook based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2019-07-03 00:00:00 Tom Richards I read this book because I wanted to understand the psychological makeup of two very important people in my life. I am a psychologist by education. I was pleasantly surprised with this book because Dr Carter does include technical information about the people pleasing and the controlling personality but he writes with very understandable terminology. I felt it was the message he had to give was more important than the medical terminology, which I think is the correct approach for this book. Dr Carter brings us into his counselling office and reveals his in depth knowledge of the nature of people pleasers, the controllers who like to take advantage of these people and the interactions between them. He delivers his knowledge by using examples of real life people pleasing clients. What I loved most about this book was the emphasis was on the people pleaser. In so many books, blogs and YouTube videos there is almost an obsession about the controlling personality. It was so refreshing to read a book that brings the power back to people pleasers by focusing on how this personality type thinks, feels and behaves. I think this is a much more helpful approach for understanding this subject. The people pleaser may see clearly his or her position in this relationship and how they contribute by their own form of controlling thoughts and behaviours and in so doing can release themselves from the compulsion to please, rather the desire to assist when able and in a way that is by their choice. An interesting, helpful and insightful read. I am the author of The Golden Age Desolation

Review # 2 was written on 2019-07-03 00:00:00 Dwohntany Wilder I'm really glad I picked up this book. I enjoyed the assorted questions throughout the text, as it kept me engaged and really pondering the material. There is a lot of self reflection that comes with a workbook like this and I'm glad I spent the time doing it. It made me realize several things about myself. Sometimes it's hard to know just where to start with healing and recovery, but I think this book certainly helped me tackle some outstanding issues I struggle with in all of my relationships. If you like to do more than just passively read advice, and want to be prompted to ponder and assess where you stand, then this book has you in mind. I enjoyed the observations and also the new ways of thinking about how to communicate and assert needs that I found throughout this workbook.