Reviews for Intended for pleasure

The average rating for Intended for pleasure based on 2 reviews is 1 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2011-06-16 00:00:00 Massimo Di Marcello This book should stay in the 50's, when the idea of the wife as second-class citizen was normal. This book should either be massively updated, or discontinued. It should absolutely not be recommended to young couples nowadays without huge caveats about its insulting ideas about women. (Instead, I would wholeheartedly recommend The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun. Don't sweat the title, it's a beautiful treatise on intimacy in marriage.) I haven't read all of this book, and I am sure the sex tips and the trouble-shooting are very useful to married couples experiencing problems. However, the chapter on "How to be a Perfect Wife" portrayed a very unrealistic, unhealthy, anti-feminist, and out-of-date view of marriage. There is no chapter on "How to be a Perfect Husband," or even a good husband, or a decent human being: the onus is on the wife to be perfect, to be fresh and perfumed at all times to be her most desirable, and not to "let herself go"--with the omission seeming to say that husbands are already perfect and must not be questioned. For the authors, their audience being a two-career household is not even an option: the wife is expected to stay home, so that she can clean the house, keep the children clean and happy, cook, and do such things as take naps during the daytime so that she can stay up late to support her husband if he has to stay up late. There is no mention of the possibility that having the wife stay at home may not be an option for your economic situation, or not be your preference as a woman who is a fully realized individual with her own goals, or even that the husband (being his own individual and having all the rights and goals open to women as well) might choose to stay at home and the wife work. Gaye Wheat writes that a wife should never decline her husband's sexual advances if she's not in the mood. She writes that secular counselors will tell women that it is okay to say no, but "as a Christian" she thinks that a Christian woman should never say no but "pray to God for strength" and keep concentrating on the inner mantra that "This is pleasing to me. This is pleasant to my body. I am experiencing nice sensations." However, if the husband is not in the mood, he can surely say no, and this is the wife's fault for not keeping the house clean enough, the kids happy enough, and planning too many things for the husband to do. All of this is absurd and infuriating. I and five of my adult friends (both men and women) were horrified, disgusted, and enraged with sections of this book read aloud. Husbands and wives should support EACH OTHER: this is not a one-way street. Women are not slaves in their own homes anymore. And husbands don't want them to be, either.

Review # 2 was written on 2008-02-26 00:00:00 Pascal Demers Written from a man's perspective, I felt like I4P was insensitive to women. The tone of the book was cold and matter-of-fact. Funny line, "if you do this...I guarantee..." There are no such guarantees because all bodies are different. The first edition was published ages ago -- and though it has been updated, it certainly feels out of date. Books I'd recommend instead: A Celebration of Sex (by Roseneau): For the couple, comprehensive, written by a licensed psychologist, Christian sex therapist. Sheet Music (by Leman): A fun, light book that is also very informative. Intimate Issues (by Dillow): For the woman and the woman's sake.