Reviews for How Women Help Men Find God

The average rating for How Women Help Men Find God based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2014-03-31 00:00:00 Vanessa Longhurst There are some good ideas in here, but the author confuses is/ought distinction, in my view. Just because men *are* a certain way, doesn't mean they *should* be that way and we should fashion the church community around that way. I see the church community (particularly conservative ones) as still led primarily by men. The author argues otherwise. He thinks churches are too feminine, and I can concur with some of those points. We need more balance. However, the research is clear. Men in American culture struggle big-time. They are heavily involved in pornography and the sex trade. Violence against women, together with rape and sexuality portrayals, are becoming much more prevalent/accepted in advertising and media in general. Women do most of the housework and take most of the responsibility for the children while still working 1 or more jobs outside the home. I don't think it's the women who need to bend over backwards to change things, totally catering to men's preferences to the degree that the author is recommending. To do so is to ask more of them than is fair. I like the parts where the author teaches women how to pray for men, and I think that was the most valuable part of this book. The other valuable piece was the author argues for men to disciple one another. This is desperately needed, and women truly cannot fill that role. One of the best things Christian women can do, in my view, is to simply refuse marry men who are not making efforts toward spiritual maturity--even if that means decades of singleness. Certainly, they shouldn't sleep with them, either. These are things women can do that may actually make a difference. The problem is that women are the ones with the ticking biological clock, not men; so there is plenty of incentive not to hold out for too long. This clip illustrates the systemic nature of the problem quite effectively: One more thing. The author argues men cannot multitask. The complexity of video games that men play and the efficiency that men demonstrate while playing them both suggest otherwise. This evidence suggests that if men are sufficiently motivated, they can indeed multitask. In sum, the real issues involved far extend the author's treatment. That said, there were some helpful lessons to be gleaned, also.

Review # 2 was written on 2010-02-20 00:00:00 Dominique Cox I loved this book. This was yet another book on the New Book Shelf at the library that I picked out on a whim. Once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down. I ended up reading most of the book aloud to my husband, both of us often exclaiming "that is so true!" This book tackles why most men don't attend church, how to make church more "man-friendly," and how to discuss God with men. Why most men don't attend church - My husband had to agree with almost every single reason given. I never thought of church as more "feminine" than "masculine," but when the author pointed out examples, I had to admit that he was correct. From the decor, to the style of worship, to the lyrics of most songs, many modern churches are more attractive to women than men. I didn't believe it until I read this book. How to make church more "man-friendly" - While I agreed that churches need to work on being more appealing to men, I didn't feel confident in the author's advice. Ideally, the advice would work perfectly and changes could be made to the church structure to attract men. However, I'm not confident that one woman can make a difference even if she found several other women who also want to make changes. At least in my local church, tradition is too deeply ingrained for a woman (especially one who is younger than 50) to be able to successfully suggest and see changes implemented. How to discuss God with men - The advice was spot-on. I can see that traditional discussion topics will not work to convince my brother that he needs God. The suggestions included in this book may open doors to at least discuss God with athiests or agnostics. My favorite quote in this book is actually a quote from another author. "Are you living the kind of Christian life your [man:] would see as a trade up? If your Christian life is strangled by legalism, parched by gloom, pinched by a desire to control, smothered by somberness, or numbed by boredom, nobody in his right mind would want that kind of life for himself" (Lee Strobel). Well said.