Reviews for Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children

The average rating for Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children based on 2 reviews is 4.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2014-07-20 00:00:00 Jaskaran Singh Excellent book with many practical examples. Three main techniques: Active Listening When a child presents a problem/concern/expresses something at all, echo back to them what you hear they are FEELING (not just parrot back what they say), no judgement, evaluation, lecture, etc. Just LISTEN and echo back what they say, allowing them to own the problem and come to their own solution. Do not worry if in one listening session a problem is not reached - it is not your problem to solve. I Messages "I feel ______ when _______ because." I feel upset when you push your brother because he gets hurt and I feel bad when I see someone bigger pushing someone littler than them. (Instead of "YOU" messages which make the child feel "bad" and drive them away from you) "Method III" collaborative problem solving Method I - Parent decides what goes, adheres to it strictly, removing voice of the child Method II - Parent tries to enforce what goes, but ends up always giving into the child, creating no sense of respect / order Method III - "Hey, I have a problem. Can we talk about ______ and how we could figure this out?" Do not judge,, allow all possible solutions to be presented and agree on one together.

Review # 2 was written on 2018-04-19 00:00:00 Martha Hall This book is very helpful not only for parenting and child rearing, but also for improving interpersonal relations in general. Engaging in active listening, avoiding blaming others with "you" messages and focusing on "I" messages, and participating in "no-lose" conflict resolution will make one a happier and more cooperative individual. The techniques illustrated in P.E.T. helped me become a better person after I first read the book when I was in my twenties.