Reviews for Emotionally Intelligent Parenting: How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child

The average rating for Emotionally Intelligent Parenting: How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2014-09-02 00:00:00 Melvis Harbin Ok, so I think this work deserves a 3.5 stars under my criteria. I can see the big effort and work all this authors dedicated to this book and I understand their goal and intention but, unless someone in your family is also a psychologist, its quiet "hard" to follow it or to make it real in a daily life... I liked that its very well organized so that if one day you need to look for something specific, it won't take you long time to find it, the real-life-examples and the variety of them. It tries to be funny and casual but they tried to hard... Although is very clear in every aspect. The book it's ok, mostly if you are a first-time-mom and you need some "guide" or sort of an order of the thoughts that spin around your head and, is always good to feel some support on what you think you are doing right and of course, to see things from a different angle and realize that maybe you've being asking too much to yourself or to your child, or to life itself. I guess is better to be pointed from a book than from your husband, mom, friend or mother-in-law when you are wrong. Being honest. The book tries to show you different exits a problem-at-home may have. I don't think "write your feelings" exactly in the moment when you are losing your nerves is possible BUT it IS to STOP, breath, think, consider, reconsider, decide better how to confront the problem and to care about it in a better and more calm way. That is exactly what I think "Parenting with Emotional Intelligence" means. In MY case and as a mom, it gave ways to improve self-control, modulate the intensity of my feelings and express my thoughts better. When and how to punish my son in a more coherent way. To Ask and argue better, avoiding indirect accusations. In a conversation or even watching tv, to listen actively: questioning, recognizing feelings in the characters, wonder the values or objectives shown, etc. How to keep my son open, honest and closer to me, to be alert on what really matters and to Trust more when is not the time for me to interfere. Etc... I think we'll never stop learning, we'll never know it all and this is a very important topic parents should never leave beside. The relationships with our family and our kids bring daily surprises and we should anticipate to possibles and if not, be ready to improvise! GOOD LUCK ;)

Review # 2 was written on 2017-09-23 00:00:00 Justin Webster --> "Copii din orfelinate nu sufera din cauza lipsei de hrana, adapost si imbracaminte, ci din cauza absentei dialogului, a mangaierii si a dragostei. Toti avem nevoie de atentie, de contactul cu oamenii si de relatii implinite de iubire. Cautarea unor legaturi de afectiune si a atentiei pozitive sunt principalii factori motivationali ai comportamentului, in special la copii. "(pag 112) -->Trebuie sa le vorbim copiilor astfel incat sa-i determinam sa gandeasca. Nu le oferim solutia, ii ajutam sa o gaseasca singuri.(pag 81) -->"O oarecare doza de stres poate sa ne motiveze, dar prea mult stres ne impiedica sa fim in forma cea mai buna. Pt oamenii cuprinsi de nervozitate, este foarte greu sa faca ceea ce stiu ca este bine in conditii normale." -->"Oamenii care sunt in stare sa priveasca lucrurile din diferite unghiuri sunt, de obicei, mai capabili sa-si controleze impulsul de a lua decizii rapide si pot rezolva problemele intr-un mod mai creativ si mai eficient" -->"Mustrarile care nu mai iau sfarsit sunt nepractice si, deseori, il vor indemna pe copil ca data viitoare sa fie mai siret!" -->"Pentru a comunica, nu este suficient sa ne exprimam clar, ci trebuie sa stim cum sa ascultam si sa oferim raspunsuri constructive." -->"Laudati-va copiii pentru atuurile lor cat de des puteti." -->Timpul petrecut impreuna va da roade atunci cand membrii familiei stiu ca isi pot impartasii fara teama sentimentele. Nu vor sa fie insultati, pedepsiti sau ca ideile lor sa fie luate in deradere.(pag 51) -->"Familiile in care membrii acestora isi impartasesc punctele de vedere, discuta despre sentimentele lor si fac legaturi intre acestea si evenimentele petrecute sunt un suport pentru copiii lor. Cand parintii creeaza o atmosfera poitiva si ii ajuta pe copii sa-si rezolve problemele in loc sa le ofere solutiile pe tava sau sa ia toate deciziile in locul lor, sunt mult mai mari sansele ca micutii sa-si dezvolte simtul responsabilitatii.(pag 47)" -->"Desi nu vor spune niciodata acest lucru, copiii au nevoie ca adultii sa le impuna anumite granite si reguli.(...) Orice parinte trebuie sa impuna granite care nu sunt negociabile." (pag 56) --> Cutia cu imbratisari. De ce imbratisari? Pentru ca aceste manifestari de iubire intaresc legaturile dintre membrii unei familii. Ele sunt un mod sigur de a impartasii sentimente calduroase.(pag 75+76) -->Trebuie sa le vorbim copiilor astfel incat sa-i determinam sa gandeasca. Nu le oferim solutia, ii ajutam sa o gaseasca singuri.