Reviews for Becoming a Better Lover: The Complete Guide to Life and Marriage

The average rating for Becoming a Better Lover: The Complete Guide to Life and Marriage based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2015-09-27 00:00:00 Mateo Garcia Very profound reading. I put Yancey up there with Donald Miller (actually, he surpasses him because Miller, while deep, struggles to have a point sometimes). And Yancey is one of the few Christian thinkers I've read that understands what sin does in the life of a believer. Many would foolishly have us believe that our sin indicates to us that we have fallen again or that we have somehow forfeited our salvation or otherwise have proven we never had it in the first place. Instead, Yancey pronounces that our sin instead is its own worst punishment, bringing down upon ourselves a worldview that keeps us from seeing God as we ought to. There's a lot more to this book than that, but that really stuck with me the most. And I love his discussion of science and how, in its tendency to reduce things to their basest perceivable properties, it deceives us into thinking that we can understand all there is, when we're not really even close without faith. I think such a statement is just as much a commentary on the modern church as it is on modern science, for the legalism of many modern denominations is reductionism in its most egregious form.

Review # 2 was written on 2011-04-16 00:00:00 Steven Danielson Each one of Philip Yancey's books that I have read have made a personal impact upon me. It is as if the author knows how to get into my head and challenge me from the inside out. I had never even heard of this book before finding it on the store shelf, but I am glad I made the jump to purchase it. In this book Yancey challenges himself to face his own doubts and preconceptions about faith to answer the question of why he believes. The book is fascinating because, unlike a lot of "Christian self-help" books follow the same formula of giving you the right things to say and or do to heighten your spiritual experience with God. Yancey on the other hand talks more about how most of that stuff just doesn't work for him and how he deals with that. I highly value honesty. How does one convince themselves that what they believe is true? Yancy looks into many areas of life: addiction, sexuality, lifestyle choices, guilt and even questioning the very existence of God. I was moved most by Yancey's conclusions of pride's affect upon my choices and the balance between suffering for what's right and enjoying the pleasures of being alive. Throughout these pages I was forced at defining my own understanding of sin, guilt and pride. I will put this on my shelf to read again because I am sure there is more wisdom within it's pages.