Reviews for Man medium rare

The average rating for Man medium rare based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2007-11-13 00:00:00 Nicholas Kosin Having the same arguements over and over? Feeling a little crazy because you think the arguement is over and a compromise has been reached yet your honey seems distant, hostile, unloving? When you ask them what's wrong they say "nothing" yet they are treating you in a non caring way? Well, welcome to living with a passive aggressive male or female for that matter. Just when you thought you'd solved your problems the passive aggressive partner, colleague, child etc.. begins their campaign of covert hostility that you might not even be aware of until you feel like you're going crazy. Could they really have forgotten to pick you up? Did you really not tell them the deadline for the project? Did they really just blame you for something they did wrong? Oh, the list goes on and on. In this book by Scott Wetzler, he describes the characteristics and motivations of the passive aggressive personality in relationships,the workplace, parenting and childhood. It's an excellent resource for anyone who is dealing with such a person on a daily basis. But don't think that all the blame is one-sided because Wetzler has devoted at least two chapter to the women and it could apply to men as well that typically choose to be in relationships with a passive aggressive personality. This is a well written, well explained book that can be very helpful for someone who feels like they are at the end of their rope. It validates that you are not crazy to believe that your partner is angry even though they deny it. The bad news is, there is very little you can do about it other than making decisions to keep yourself sane by setting limits and perhaps choosing to leave the relationship. This really stinks if you are working with someone who uses this modus operandi. The person who pervasively uses a passive aggressive filter to deal with world has to want to change himself/herself in order to have the very thing they are frightened of most; healthy, intimate relationships. Good luck with that!

Review # 2 was written on 2008-02-19 00:00:00 Alex Horkay This book illustrates in detail in what ways passive-aggressive men act, from subtle to very overtly so and what their motivation for doing so is. It stems from a deep envy of perceiving the other person (often a romantic partner) as more powerful, more skilled, or more successful in life. The book seems to mainly focus on interpersonal relationships but passive-aggressive men can also be co-workers or, worse yet, superiors, business partners, neighbors who deliberately engage in crazy-making behavior in order to elevate themselves and make themselves feel more powerful. The author lists the different kinds of mind and power games they play. Is your husband really just a little lazy or does he procrastinate because he derives secret pleasure from seeing you get ticked off more and more or becoming frustrated with his never fulfilled promises? Are you being gaslighted or you feel as if you are talking to a wall and although you seem to reach consensus while talking through what bothers you nothing actually changes afterwards? Some of these behaviors can happen subconsciously but a frightening percentage of these men are quite aware of how deviously, manipulatively and destructively they are acting. This book was specifically about passive-aggressiveness but although someone doesn't have to have an actual psychiatric diagnosis, this behavior is a specialty of those with certain personality disorders. (I'm thinking in particular of male borderlines who are experts at being, as the author dubs them, "catch me if you can lovers" and deliberately so.) Wetzler offers several ideas on how to try and confront the passive-aggressive man without making him feel backed into a corner but personally I find this to be more something that would work best - if at all - for therapists rather than girlfriends or wives for example. As the target of such a man it's easy to fall trap of starting to feel like nothing but a victim or play victim, hoping to get this person to understand what great pain they are causing. If only they understand they would change, right? Wrong. Hurting their targets is the primary goal after all and stringing them along for as long as possible a game they like to play for as long as possible. Ultimately, it's impossible to be around such a person for an extended period of time which may cause depression, anxiety and many other mental and emotional problems for the target of the passive-aggressive man. Going no contact is, as so often with deeply disturbed men and women, the only way of moving on and regaining your equilibrium.