Reviews for When you and your mother can't be friends

The average rating for When you and your mother can't be friends based on 2 reviews is 4 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2009-11-08 00:00:00 Robert L Buchin I bought this for obvious reasons. Being estranged from your mother can be a lonely, isolating thing. After all, how many people do you know who aren't close to their mother? Not in a "Grrr, she drives me crazy... let the answering machine pick up & I'll deal with her later" kind of way, but in a "I haven't spoken to my mother in years and it's better that way" way? Personally I don't know of anyone other than, well, me. And in that sense this book is a tremendous help. Reading the first-hand tales of others in the same boat made me feel far less isolated and alone. There were also profiles offered on the types of women who've fallen out with their mothers and then moved on (i.e. are you an overachiever? a troublemaker? a defector?). This part had me scoffing: "I'm not that easily pinned down," I huffed. Then I got to the chapter on defectors and my jaw hit the floor. I suppose that's about the best tribute to this book I can offer. And while some fences can never be mended, the overall tone is a good one: reminding us that no mother starts out wanting to hurt her child. That maybe my mother was a victim of her circumstances as much as I've been a victim of mine, or you've been a victim of yours. Forgiveness isn't always an option, but acceptance & understanding has to be something we strive for. Right? I'm starting there are vowing not to let history repeat itself.

Review # 2 was written on 2012-03-21 00:00:00 Eron Tierson After reading a few books that skim over real mother-daughter issues, it was a breath of fresh air to read one that felt as if the author knew me. This was probably because mothers & daughters have had stressed relationships since the beginning of time, and my experience is nothing new in relation to the bigger picture. It felt good to know that what I went through isn't normal, that I shouldn't feel guilty for something that has been a generational problem, and that protecting my mental/psychological/mental health is actually NOT to be discouraged, even if it means limited interaction with my mother. I checked this book out of the library, but am going to buy a copy for myself and highlight the hell out of it!