Reviews for Rastafari and Reggae: A Dictionary and Sourcebook

The average rating for Rastafari and Reggae: A Dictionary and Sourcebook based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2011-05-02 00:00:00 Richard Vogel John Trent refers to being an adult child of divorce (ACOD) as living under a curse. A curse simply referring to the fact that the "flow of life-giving love and encouragement has been cut off." As an ACOD the example of a healthy marriage was unavailable consequently affecting one's perception of marriage, never witnessing his/her parents fight for the marriage and perhaps being exposed to a rather unhealthy approach to dealing with conflict. What an ACOD saw when the marriage got tough was that his/her parents just gave up, walked out and got a separation. An ACOD is tempted to do the same and exhibits similar behaviors that he/she learned from a young age perhaps without even being aware of it. He identifies 12 manifestations of the curse in ACOD which are the following: isolation, unhealthy family secrets,false guilt, fear-based procrastination, poor choices, false starts, broken commitments, blaming others, smoldering anger, not really listening, unending arguments, and seeing only an impersonal God. Although ACOD generally did not have good role models of marriage when growing up, he encourages the reader to find a couple that can mentor them. A couple to learn from. John Trent recognizes that although his mother did not have a successful marriage, she nonetheless helped guide them in knowing how to love their spouse unconditionally as she displayed this towards her children always placing their needs before her own needs. What I myself found most powerful in this book was the idea of the two degree turn. In his own example he admits that he had an issue with anger and would point his finger at his daughters. In order to change, he made an agreement with them and vowed to pay them $1 every time he pointed at them. He says that being conscious of this act, helped him control his anger. Although many times, he would make progress he would also fail at other times. The two degree turn is acknowledging that change does not occur overnight but rather it takes place little by little. Although it may feel like you are taking two steps forward and one back, he encourages you not to give up. "We are sold on Cinderella, not on how uncomfortable wearing glass slippers for the next 50 years might be. In other words, we forget how much hard and consistent work it takes to live "happily ever after."

Review # 2 was written on 2010-03-26 00:00:00 William Simmons Buen recurso que encontré antes de casarme y sigo practicado casi 10 años después