Reviews for Diaper-Free Before 3: The Healthier Way to Toilet Train and Help Your Child Out of Diapers Sooner

The average rating for Diaper-Free Before 3: The Healthier Way to Toilet Train and Help Your Child Out of Diapers Sooner based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2011-02-01 00:00:00 Jerry Carrico I recently toured the Montessori school that my son will be attending when he turns 2, and one of the things that surprised me is that the school is entirely diaper free ... even for the youngest children, who are 18 months old. The little ones still have accidents and need to be changed constantly, but being diaper free makes them much more aware of their bodily functions than wearing a diaper. I haven't thought much about toilet training, as my only frame of reference is my nephew, who wasn't toilet trained until he was over 2.5 yrs old. So I picked up this book to read more about early toilet training ... the methods and why of it. Well, the beginning of the book contains an interesting history of toilet training. Particularly interesting is the fact that, prior to the 1950, the average age of toilet training introduction was between 12-18 months, with majority of kids trained by 2 years old. With the introduction of disposable diapers, new philosophies came about, and now the average age of of kids being toilet trained is closer to 3 years old. The method of training is something that seems really natural to me ... making visits to the toilet part of the daily routine. No gold stars for going in the toilet, no shame tactics of "babies wear diapers, you aren't a baby, are you?" My husband thinks early toilet training is pressuring kids to learn to use the toilet before they are ready. After reading this book, I don't think that's the case. It's more about making the use of the toilet part of the natural routine of the day. There's no pressure for "success." I haven't yet tried any of these methods, so full review to come at a later time.

Review # 2 was written on 2011-01-08 00:00:00 Anna Fretz I would give this book five stars for its ability to normalize infant potty training and to empower the parent or caregiver to put it into practice. However because of the author's tendency at times to use the book as her personal parenting soapbox and her failure to address an audience with diverse parenting styles, I lowered my rating to three stars. Written by a pediatrician and grounded in research, this book had me convinced within a few chapters that infant toilet training was the most normal thing in the world. Though I read the book for practical reasons, my interest was piqued by the history and social context of toilet training and diaper use in the US. I was fascinated to learn that the age of initiation of toilet training gradually changed from one month in the early 20th century, to six months in the 1950s, to 18 months in the 1970s, to 24-30 months today. In non-Western cultures, the process for infants often begins within the first few weeks of life. Though the author recommends starting at six months, it is because she sees it at more practical in our modern society and not because younger infants are not capable. But the clear message is that beginning toilet training at age two or three, which is the norm in Western countries today, is actually only a very recent societal trend and it's possible to start at a much younger age. It's important to clarify that the "training" referred to is not accomplished through any type of coercion or rewards system. In a nutshell, it is more of developing an association for the child between voiding and actually sitting on the toilet. When the child is young the caregiver pays attention to the baby's cues and patterns (for instance usually babies urinate soon after eating or waking up from sleep) and simply puts them on the toilet at those times, starting with just once or twice a day and gradually increasing. The caregiver makes it a positive experience by reading books with the child or giving them a favorite toy to play with while sitting on the toilet and makes it a built-in, matter-of-fact part of daily life just like getting dressed and eating breakfast. As the association builds the child will naturally wet her diaper less and less often. The author effectively dispels the myths and articulates the benefits of early toilet training, and then goes on to provide very practical and straightforward instructions for how to actually accomplish it. She also provides helpful information about how children's bodies work and related medical issues such as urinary tract infections and constipation that all parents would benefit from, regardless of choice of toilet training method. As a reader I felt motivated and eager to start as soon as I could. On the other hand, I was put off at a few points when the author took advantage of her captive audience to dispense her personal parenting advice which was only tenuously related to the topic of the book. A few examples are that she advocates cry-it-out sleep training, says that bottles and other comfort items should be cut off at age one, and devotes the entire epilogue to a critique of helicopter parenting. This is not only out of place and irritating but in some ways it is detrimental to her message, as it does not acknowledge a diverse audience of parents. For instance, she seems to assume that families bottle feed and only gives passing mention to breastfeeding. Her solution to nighttime bed wetting is to not allow fluid intake in the evening. For parents who nurse or bottle feed their children to sleep (let alone nurse/feed in the middle of the night) she offers no advice except "don't do it." She also does not differentiate clearly between breastmilk and cow's milk in her discussion of the role of milk in constipation. She dismisses the use of cloth diapers as too much of an inconvenience, which not only perpetuates this cultural myth but is inconsistent with the rest of her philosophy about toilet training (as she states in many places how disposable diapers are unhelpful in toilet training because the child does not feel wet in them.) While these views may appeal to a mainstream audience that formula feeds and uses disposable diapers, in the same breath she alienates (or at least fails to address the practical concerns of) parents who breastfeed, nurse to sleep, or use cloth diapers. In short, while the core of this book is solid, some parts of what she says or fails to say are too heavily influenced by her own personal parenting experiences and thus not broad enough for a diverse audience. My final critique of this book is that it offers no advice for parents who want to begin toilet training before the age of six months. I have also begun to read Infant Potty Training by Laurie Boucke which explains how to do this from birth and considers babies over six months to be "late starters." Though I haven't finished that book yet I can already say that while it seems to be solid in both research and detailed practical advice, it definitely leaves me with the impression that it is a very alternative practice, whereas Diaper-Free Before 3 makes me feel like it is normal, mainstream, and uncomplicated. Ultimately I'm glad I am reading both books as they seem to complement each other. Other books on infant toilet training include The Diaper-Free Baby: The Natural Toilet Training Alternative by Christine Gross-Loh and Diaper Free: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene by Ingrid Bauer. Whatever you read, the take-home message is that infant toilet training is normal and healthy and requires only a few basic instructions and principles to get started. I'm glad I am learning about this topic and am enjoying accompanying my baby in the process of learning to use the toilet!