Reviews for Smut: Erotic Reality Obscene Ideology

The average rating for Smut: Erotic Reality Obscene Ideology based on 2 reviews is 5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2019-09-15 00:00:00 C Huhn I had a HUGE problem with Kevin Leman's Sheet Music. Primarily, the book deserved to be written in cooperation with a woman as well. Leman writes a book about sexual intimacy for married people from a Christian psychologist's perspective, but unfortunately for Leman and for his readers, that perspective is decidedly male. Leman is rather controversial, but that isn't what upset me about this book. What really got under my skin was how much he chastised women for their role in creating a bad marital environment. If a man strays from his marriage? He should take responsibility for his actions, but apparently the wife is at fault for not meeting his needs. Leman even quantifies what "meeting needs" looks like at one point when he tells women they should be having sex with their husbands at least three times a week. (Otherwise, "Mr Happy" might lead them astray!). There were some really great pieces of wisdom in this book. I especially loved the epilogue - couples should pray for a good sex life. But in my opinion, Leman should have started with that and left it at that. Either that, or he should have brought in a woman to co-write the book. And possibly one who isn't his wife - as he seems to assume all women are likely exactly like his wife. I am pretty sure I wouldn't recommend this book, which is interesting, because I started to read it with the assumption that I would pass it on to my husband. Now, after seeing the perspective that Leman ascribes to, I don't want him infecting my husband with that mentality at all!

Review # 2 was written on 2017-10-26 00:00:00 Kevin Wright This book was recommended to Eric and I when we were in pre-marital counciling. It has a good bit of advice and information on sex, which was helpful for both of us. It gave some general information on what to expect when you first have sex and things like that as well as information on sex within marraige and how that works, advice, tips and so on. Pros-- gave us some good "what to expect" info for our wedding night, had some fun creative ideas to use in the bedroom, Eric related well to the information pertaining to men. Cons-- This book is written by an old guy. his wife is clearly an extremely concervative woman (he says at one point in the book that his wife showered in clothing on their honeymoon because she was embarrassed to show her body--and her husband wasn't even in the shower with her!), who I honestly could not relate to on very many levels, especially sexually. Because of this much of the author's advice for women is "suck it up and let your man hump you a couple times a week". The way he spoke to women is a bit offensive because of his tendency to assume we have the sex drive of a stump.