Reviews for Sex is for real

The average rating for Sex is for real based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2019-05-03 00:00:00 Guy Gill I read this ultra-obscure tome (9 goodreads reviews??) based on a handful of sudden motivations. I spied the book stashed away in a drawer at a friend's house, for just long enough to notice that it was written by Eric Berne, who had written Games People Play, a book I once stole from my father's bookshelf but also one that a college roommate of mine greatly admired. As a human, "sex" and "loving" are important topics that are often on my mind; the relationship between the two being quite a large source of ongoing consideration. The title stuck with me, so I looked it up on the internet, found some bootleg New Zealand website that had a crystal clear PDF, downloaded it to my iPad, and then read the whole thing in 3 sittings. In the Q&A in the appendix of the book -- apparently culled largely from lectures, though it does not feel like reading a series of lectures -- Berne is asked, "How can you account for so many laughs from all of us on such a serious subject?" and replies, "Since sex is supposed to be fun, I don't see why a lecture about it shouldn't be fun too." Replace lecture with book, and there you go. It's a fun read, littered with strange and hilarious and often just slightly misogynistic jokes (hey, it was written in the 70s) while still being completely serious and thoughtful on the topics of sexuality and human psychology. When I was in college, I tried reading Games People Play, and struggled with it. I had trouble imagining all the details of all the different transactional analyses being described, constantly trying to shoe-horn myself into one of the "Games" and wondering what the purpose was. Am I supposed to learn to be a player? Am I supposed to identify my role in games and thwart it or encourage it? Perhaps I was too young or impatient or self-obsessed to extract useful lessons for myself. Yet, I had similar problems in the brief section on Sexual Games in this book, as Berne immediately gets hot and heavy with his encyclopedia of games, cycling through example after example of human dynamics and quick descriptions of the way they play out. This section ends quickly though, and the moral(s) of the story come into focus: don't play those games! Seek true intimacy! *Actually* talk and *actually* see your partner! Also there is this whole thing about free will being a bit of an illusion, but that we can recognize this about ourselves and work hard to change the scripts that govern so much of our behavior, if we try. Perhaps this is why I've been in therapy for the past 7 years. Perhaps I could have just gone straight to Freud, but I have a feeling I enjoyed this book more than I would have reading Old Siggy.

Review # 2 was written on 2017-06-14 00:00:00 Keith Mitchell "Některá zvířata můžeme vycvičit k různým občasným kouskům, ale nikdy je nezkrotíme. Jiné druhy zkrotit lze, a kromě toho i vycvičit. Jen člověk je ovšem krotký od samého počátku a celý život předvádí nějaké kousky pro páníčky. Napřed pro mámu s tátou, pak pro učitele ve škole a nakonec pro někoho, kdo se ho ujme a naučí ho, jak se takovými kousky živit, ať už v míru, ve válce či za revoluce. Jaká revoluce? S tím jděte do háje, teď musím na jeviště, za chvilku mi začíná výstup. Kung-fu nebo kung-pao, vždyť je to jedno. Důvěřovat, makat, poslouchat, o to tady běží. Padouch nebo hrdina, my jsme jedna rodina. Kdo chce s vlky býti, musí s nimi výti, jinak ho rozsápou na kusy. Poslouchat, poslouchat se musí - buď ty poslušné, nebo ty neposlušné. Fronta se tvoří vlevo, druhá vpravo, hlavně se necourejte uprostřed. Špatně, klidně se courejte, hlavně si nestoupejte do fronty. A koukejte být v pohodě a free, to je rozkaz! Hlavně neposlouchejte ty pitomce. Poslouchejte jenom ty naše pitomce. Anarchie nebo nic! Kupředu levá! Hergot, jak to že nejste v pohodě? Musíte být originální a dělat si věci po svém, ne, ne, ne, takhle ne, takhle to má být! Každý se musí chovat spontánně, a běda jestli ne."