Reviews for The Man You Always Wanted Is the One You Already Have

The average rating for The Man You Always Wanted Is the One You Already Have based on 2 reviews is 4 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2011-12-07 00:00:00 Erin Schmidt Grabbed this book off the free shelf at the library in hopes that it might help me with my prickly relationship with my brother. The author began by stating that his book wasn't anything earth-shattering and was simple but good advice that could be put to use practically. The main focus was mostly on changing our reactions to those who frustrate us and this is mainly how I learned to get along with my brother - instead of getting angry or engaging with him, I have learned not to engage by changing the subject, not getting involved in a conversation or trying to politely walk away. Honestly though, there really wasn't anything I learned from the book to help me that I haven't already tried to do. I get along with most everyone else I meet so I think I am a pretty easy person to get along with on a regular basis. The story of the teacher, Miss Thompson and her student, Teddy broke my heart and it is so true how much a person can make a difference in a child's like by what they say to them and how they treat them! Sigh! Funny too that I read this book after watching "Big Miracle" with my children and the author mentioned these trapped whales in his book too! Had I read the book before the movie I probably would have breezed over it but instead, it really jumped out at me. Neither my husband or I remember this event from 1988. All I remember for 1988 (or was is 1989?) was the fall of the Berlin Wall. Quote I liked: p. 36 - "Your mind is kind of like that apartment (hand-me down things when we first move out on our own). As a young adult many of your thoughts and ideas about yourself were hand-me-downs from your parents, friends, teachers and others who influenced you while you were growing up. Some of those thoughts may have been negative, critical, and even sinful. As you have grown older these thoughts have hindered you from maintaining a good self-image and getting along with yourself. But you can't just empty your mind of negative thoughts. You cannot live in a mental vacuum. You must replace old, negative, critical hand-me-down thoughts with positive biblical thoughts."

Review # 2 was written on 2015-03-29 00:00:00 Timothy Mcginn The author has good insight on how to get along better with others. In chapter 2, he notes that we need to get along with ourselves first. I found many good insights in how I treat myself and how that is reflected in how I treat others. One downside to this book is that the author gives a very broad view of dysfunctional or strained relationships with some counsel on how to change, but I think the impact of the book would have been better if he had limited the scope of the book. In addition, the author includes many references from The Amplified Bible.