Reviews for Parenting the Strong-Willed Child The Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two...

The average rating for Parenting the Strong-Willed Child The Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two... based on 2 reviews is 3 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2018-04-01 00:00:00 victor novotny After a particularly rough patch with our 4-year-old, I checked out this book from the library. It feels kind of out of date and is opposite of the school of Laura Markham (Positive Parent, Happy Kid) and the book How to talk so Little Kids Will Listen, in that withdrawal of attention is used as a behavior modifier. So this book strongly advocates for time out, while the other more compassionate methods call for “time in” or sitting with the child as they have their tantrum. In our case, “time in” was turning into “time to hit mommy” so we needed something drastic. Trying the traditional time out didn’t work (he just ran away) and the strongest method in this book was to “lead the child by the hand” back to time out and “place a hand on their leg.” HA! I thought this was a book for STRONG willed children — a hand on the leg was nowhere near enough to keep my kid in the chair. So we took from both methods, improvised a little, and now if he hits, kicks or throws and doesn’t sit in timeout, I physically hold him down on the floor, in a loving but firm way. I resisted this for a while thinking it would encourage more aggression from him but this book gave me the courage to physically be strong with him and I think it’s what he needed, actually. He was pushing the limits of my strength to see if I could handle it, and by physically dominating him it weirdly makes him feel more secure. I always give him the option of time out instead and now he is opting for that more and more. But instead of withholding attention as recommended in this book, I sit with him, albeit boringly. Finally, to back up a bit, I liked that the first recommended course of action here is to “attend”, or give your child positive attention. This is like Markham’s “connect” and it super works. I noticed behavior improvements as soon as I started being more vocal in my praise of good behavior.

Review # 2 was written on 2010-08-12 00:00:00 Daniel Graner If you are really struggling with your child and haven't done much research on how to keep them in line without beating or killing them (don't report me to CPS please, I don't beat or kill my child. Mostly.) this might be a good read. If, however, you've read scores of parenting books and done research up the wazoo of how to handle a difficult beastie, this isn't any new information. I had hoped that reading this book would solve all my parenting problems and that in five weeks my two year old would be a perfect little angelic gentleman. Time to go back to square one.