Reviews for I am no longer myself without you

The average rating for I am no longer myself without you based on 2 reviews is 3.5 stars.

Review # 1 was written on 2019-03-04 00:00:00 Jamie Smith "When men fall in love we surrender our solitude and relinquish our masquerade of self-sufficiency. A new story of our lives is waiting to begin; a recognition that 'I am no longer myself without you'. The paradox of love is that we discover a new sense of self in the moment we lose our self to another person. Men avoid this paradox, because love must develop into a relationship - a negotiation of give and take, autonomy and dependency - and faced with such a prospect we have traditionally retreated and recouped some of our solitude. Intimacy changes the boundaries of our self and we become ambivalent about who we are and what we want, and in this equivocation lies apprehension. We are unsure how to respond. Masculinity - an identity rooted in the language of work and public life - has left men unskilled in the necessary words of feeling, empathy and love." The words above capture my mind, for I can relate with it. In this book, the author muses about how men love their women, and how encounters with women, beginning with their mothers (also with fathers who became role model), shapes their future relationships. Interspersed with some excerpts from poetries and his own romantic experiences, he concluded that women is the hardest thing to love. He also discusses how the sexual liberation, women and gay liberations, wreak havoc on family structure and struck on the essence of being a father and manhood itself, voicing his, and indeed, many other men's anxiousness. A short reading that makes me think about what better thing to do to love my loved one and my view on heterosexual relationship.

Review # 2 was written on 2016-06-10 00:00:00 Fernando Fischmann "Interesting analysis on relationships" I shocked my friends once again holding a book titled "I am no longer myself without you". Naturally, they thought this would be some tragic romantic book on the pain of unrequited love - shockingly advertised as a book on man's romantic love and relationships with woman on the book cover. Sorry, not really. Clarification! That wasn't what attracted me to this book anyway! When I explained my view that this book is actually a psychological and social analysis of the nature of the relationships man (as in male) have with their parents, lovers, and themselves, my friends seemed to be more shocked than ever. Jonathan Rutherford has written a thorough analysis on human relationships. He drew examples from many sources including psychology, sociology, literature and current affairs. I like the touch of male sentimentality he puts in that is seldom absence, or hidden, from public viewing. The chapter titled "Silence", and "Mother" were especially good. But beware that at times many parts of the book was overly analytical - confusing and too lecture-ish.