Home Wrecker: An Adultery Reader Book

Adultery occurs the most for reasons of lacking something. The key is discovering what that "something" is.
Oftentimes that "something" is communication. People throw the word communication around in a sentence all the time, when truthfully, they don't know the depth of its layered meaning and effect.

If a wife does most of the talking and the husband does very little, based on particular social circumstances, if the wife has access to men whom she is acquainted with, she can begin to confide in one of them, and the feeling of relief of being heard and being acknowledged for what you have to say, can result in the wife having a physical affair with the acquaintance she confided in.

Another situation applies to the husband doing most of the talking (talking-over) and the wife doing most of the listening. The husband has very dominant traits and is looking to supersede his relations by having an emotional (first) and physical (second) affair with an acquaintance. This acquaintance will usually be at the workplace. Why? It's convenient. Why go anywhere else, outside the place you go everyday?

A male who is dominant does not fully respect his wife, often puts her down (verbally) in some way. Even the slightest way of making puns on her that are not perceived as funny (but continued) is a design of lacking mutual respect and a gateway to fulfilling carnal pleasures as a way to express his lack of care for what his wife thinks. A man of this disposition will also have no hesitation to openly flirt and flaunt with other women.

Therefore it is not the homewrecker to blame, it is the dominant husband. If the wife comes home and finds a woman going down on her man, the woman's not a slut, the husband is. The husband allowed everything to happen. There is no excuse of "Honey! I didn't know any better!".

The same applies to women. If a man has known a woman for a short period and he knows that she is married, and still he puts his hand on her hand, and she rubs his fingers, holds his hand, even cuddles with him, those actions are on the wife, not the man who made the move.

Adultery is a test. The spouse who fails the test, is the spouse who should take accountability.