When the Earth Moves; Women and Orgasm Book

Preface	1
Chapter One: Personal Experience	15
All Work and No Play	18
Into the West	22
A New Vocabulary for Sex	23
The Best Medicine	26
Safer Sex	28
An Orgasm Sampler	33
Chapter Two: What Works, What Doesn't, and Why	36
An Anatomy Review	36
An Oral Review	40
Penetration	44
A Different Kind of Blow Job	45
How to Ask	46
Masturbation	47
Vibrators	51
Emotional Erogenous Zones	52
Physics	55
Once Is Not Always Enough	57
Tuning In and Turning On	58
Chapter Three: The Physical Experience ofOrgasm	60
The Myth of the Definitive Orgasm	62
Beyond Vaginal andClitoral	68
Combination Orgasms	73
Surface versus Depth	74
Pulsing and Contractions	75
Pregnancy and Orgasm	77
A Vocabulary for Orgasm	78
Multiple Orgasms	79
Chapter Four: The Energetic Experience of Orgasm	82
The Nonphysical Components of Orgasm	83
Chemistry: A Psychic Connection	89
Emotional Orgasms	91
The Intellectual Component: Focusing the Mind	94
Aftershocks	98
Simultaneous and Empathic Orgasms	99
Energy Movement Within the Body	101
Alignment	103
Visuals	105
The Power of Fantasy	106
Sound	107
Extended Orgasm	109
Chapter Five: The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm	117
The Feminine	119
Intuition and Feelings	120
Separation, Oneness, and Passion	123
Tantra	126
Kundalini	130
The Breath	132
Meditation	134
Love, Sex, and Sanity	135
Chapter Six: The Elusive Orgasm	144
Variations in Desire	144
Hysterectomies, Medications, and Aging	146
Disappearing Orgasms	148
Recognizing an Orgasm	150
Anorgasmic Women	151
Learning to Come	157
Great Expectations	161
The Need to Please	164
Faking Orgasm	166
Chapter Seven: Early Sexual Experiences	169
A Child's View of Sex	173
Growing Up Without Information	175
Embracing Our Passion	177
Negative Messages and Sexual Abuse	178
Why Some of Us Love It and Some of Us Don't	182
When Sex is Sex and When It's Not	185
Teenage Sexuality	186
The Problem	188
Recovery	191
Chapter Eight: Relationships	196
Bodies	197
Taking Your Time	200
Partners	201
Withholding Feelings	202
A Great Love Doesn't Always Guarantee Great Sex	204
Communication	205
Getting Turned On	206
Dealing with Difficult Feelings	209
How to Recognize a Feeling When It Hits You in the Face	212
Getting Down to Business	213
Take a Risk, But Don't Take It Seriously	215
Chapter Nine: The Bigger Picture	219
Caretakers versus Providers	220
Claiming Our Passion	222
The Power of No	223
The Power of Yes	227
Asserting Ourselves	229
It Hurts So Good	232
Fears versus Passion	236
Chapter Ten: From the Point of View of the Penis	239
Popular Mythology	240
Is Sex Easier for Men?	241
Are Men Aroused More Quickly?	243
Is Intercourse Better for Men Than for Women?	244
Are Men Still Focused On Getting It Over With?	245
Do Men Need Sex More Than Women Do?	246
Do Men Need a Heart Connection Less than Women Do?	247
Sexual Dysfunctions and the Need for Nurturing	248
Emotional Baggage	251
The New Focus: The Woman's Pleasure	253
Do Men Know When We're Faking It?	255
Sharing Roles and Challenging Established Patterns	258
The Male Experience of Female Orgasm	262
Chapter Eleven: Penetration and the G Spot	264
Lubrication	264
The PC muscle	267
Penetration Is Not Essential	270
But Some of Us Really Love It!	272
Virginity: The Arduous Process of Losing It	273
Enjoying Penetration	275
The Astounding Vagina	278
Taking It Slowly	279
The G Spot	280
Location, Location, Location	282
Toys	283
To Use a Dildo ... or Not Use a Dildo	285
Ode to a Dildo	287
Other Orifices	289
Chapter Twelve: Ejaculation, Fisting, and Anal Sex	291
The G Spot and Ejaculation	291
What Is It and Where Does It Come From?	293
Who? When? How Much?	295
The Relationship of Orgasm to Ejaculation	299
The Power of Ejaculation	300
Vaginal Fisting	302
The How-to's of Vaginal Fisting	305
Orgasms and Fisting	308
Anal Sex	309
Chapter Thirteen: The Purpose of Orgasm	316
From Pain to Pleasure, and Beyond	319
Responsible Sex, Responsible Living	322
Working with Energy	323
Empowerment	327
Resources	329
Questionnaire	336
Index	343