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Introduction: Put Your Oxygen Mask on First | xii | |
Who Are We? And Why Have We Written This Book? | xv | |
Part 1 | Monkey See, Monkey do | 1 |
Why Are You Reading This Book? | 3 | |
Chapter 1 | What's the Problem and Whose Problem Is It? | 5 |
What's the Problem? | 6 | |
What Is Grief, Anyway? | 7 | |
Obvious and Hidden Losses | 8 | |
Never Compare Losses | 8 | |
Time Doesn't Heal--Actions Do | 9 | |
Normal and Natural | 10 | |
Crisis Behavior | 11 | |
Between the Problem and the Solution: Six Major Myths | 12 | |
Chapter 2 | Looking At Myth 1: Don't Feel Bad! | 14 |
Sweet but Dangerous | 15 | |
Without Sadness, Joy Cannot Exist | 16 | |
We Are Not Exaggerating | 16 | |
Who's Responsible for Feelings? | 21 | |
Chapter 3 | Looking at Myth 2: Replace the Loss, Part One | 24 |
All Relationships are Unique | 26 | |
The Stolen Bicycle | 27 | |
Toys and Dolls--Gone but Not Forgotten | 28 | |
It's Time to Meet Leslie and Learn More about Cherished Possessions | 29 | |
Replace the Loss, Part Two | 31 | |
Chapter 4 | Looking at Myth 3: Grieve Alone | 33 |
Multigenerational Pass-Through | 34 | |
Grieve Alone--A Closer Look | 36 | |
Why Do People Grieve Alone? | 38 | |
Is Alone Ever Okay? | 39 | |
Here's Some Good News: Different Beliefs Produce Better Results For Children | 39 | |
Pause to Reflect and Recap | 40 | |
Chapter 5 | Looking at Myth 4: Be Strong | 42 |
Wait, There's More | 43 | |
Strong or Human, Pick One! | 44 | |
Chapter 6 | Looking at Myth 5: Keep Busy | 46 |
A Dangerous Illusion | 47 | |
The Real Impact of Loss: Keeping Busy and Dwelling on Pain | 48 | |
Dwelling on Pain Is Sometimes the Result of Not Being Heard | 50 | |
Heard at Last | 51 | |
Chapter 7 | Looking at Myth 6: Time Heals All Wounds | 54 |
Corporate Grief and Grief in the Classroom | 55 | |
No Time Zones | 56 | |
Part 2 | Moving From Grief to Recovery | 59 |
Chapter 8 | Looking for "The Book" | 61 |
John's Quest Continues | 64 | |
Chapter 9 | What Is Incomplete Grief? | 67 |
Is Incomplete Grief Only about Bad Things? | 69 | |
Chapter 10 | Helping the Helpers | 73 |
It's Easier to Fill an Empty Cup | 73 | |
Scuba Diving Lessons | 74 | |
The Critical Transition | 75 | |
Boundless Capacity | 77 | |
Delicate Strokes | 78 | |
If Your Kids Are Older, Do Not Despair | 79 | |
Do We Know Enough Yet? | 79 | |
Chapter 11 | Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors (S.T.E.R.B.s) | 80 |
Do You Know Where Your Child's Energy Is? | 82 | |
Short-Term Relief Doesn't Work | 84 | |
Recapping Part Two | 87 | |
Part 3 | The Path to Completion | 89 |
What is Completion? | ||
Chapter 12 | The Relationship Review | 91 |
Relationship Reviews Happen Automatically | 91 | |
Who Goes First? | 92 | |
Pick the Fruit When It's Ripe | 93 | |
Chapter 13 | Real-Life Examples | 96 |
Out of the Mouths of Babes--Good-bye, Mr. Hamster | 96 | |
All Grief Is Experienced at 100 percent | 98 | |
The Death of a Pet | 98 | |
Random Memories | 102 | |
Chapter 14 | Helping Your Child Review the Relationship | 103 |
Sleeping in the Bed, or Not | 105 | |
Minding the Steam Kettle | 106 | |
Chapter 15 | The Emotional Energy Checklist | 107 |
Children and Their Pets: Reviewing Events and Emotions | 107 | |
Emotional Energy Checklist: Death of a Pet | 110 | |
Chapter 16 | What to Do with the Review | 113 |
Converting Emotional Energy Into Recovery Components | 113 | |
Chapter 17 | Recovery Components | 116 |
Apologies First | 116 | |
Apologies to Living People | 116 | |
Apologies to People Who Have Died | 119 | |
Should Parents Ever Apologize? | 119 | |
Time Doesn't Create Completion: Actions Do | 120 | |
Chapter 18 | Recovery Components: Forgiveness | 121 |
Forgiveness Is an Action, Not a Feeling | 123 | |
Chapter 19 | Recovery Components: Significant Emotional Statements | 126 |
Are the Same Things Significant for Everyone? | 127 | |
Some Significant Comments Require Forgiveness | 128 | |
Fond Memories | 128 | |
Recapping This Section | 129 | |
Chapter 20 | Death of a Person | 132 |
Reviewing Relationships with People Who Have Died | 133 | |
The Death of a Grandparent | 134 | |
Uniqueness Is the Real Issue | 135 | |
"Less Than Loved Ones" | 137 | |
Complex Relationships | 137 | |
Emotional Energy Checklist: Grandparent, Relative, or Close Acquaintance | 139 | |
Recapping Part Three--Is It Soup Yet? | 143 | |
Before We Move On, We Honor the Readers | 144 | |
Part 4 | Moving from Discovery to Completion | 145 |
Chapter 21 | Continuing Litany vs. Freedom | |
Carrying the Litany Is a Heavy Load | 147 | |
Exaggerated Memory Pictures | 149 | |
Freedom Feels Better | 150 | |
Chapter 22 | Zeroing In on Completion | 151 |
"Thumper" | 151 | |
Chapter 23 | Delivering, Completing, and Saying Good-bye | 160 |
Leading Up to Jessica's Letter | 161 | |
Jessica's Completion Letter to Thumper | 163 | |
Entirely Different but Exactly the Same | 176 | |
Chapter 24 | Very Close to NaNa | 169 |
Emotional Energy List--Grandparent, Relative, or Close Acquaintance | 176 | |
Chronicling Events that Occur After a Death | 179 | |
Amanda's Completion Letter to NaNa | 181 | |
Chapter 25 | One More Letter | 183 |
Jeffrey's Letter | 184 | |
New Discoveries | 185 | |
What About Jeffrey's Sisters? | 186 | |
Concluding Part Four | 187 | |
Part 5 | Other Losses | 189 |
Focusing on Moving and Divorce | 189 | |
Chapter 26 | The First Big Move | 191 |
Transitional Events | 193 | |
Chapter 27 | What Not to Do | 194 |
Moving | 197 | |
Chapter 28 | On Divorce | 199 |
Leslie Gets the First Word--The Divorce of My Parents | 199 | |
Chapter 29 | Bad New--Bad News | 202 |
Long Term or Sudden Impact | 202 | |
Whose Divorce Is It? | 203 | |
Multiple Losses | 204 | |
Sometimes We Get Lucky | 206 | |
Don't Fix Feelings | 207 | |
Don't Be Fooled--Relief Is Only the Last Feeling | 208 | |
Noble Sentiments, but Hearts Are Still Broken | 209 | |
One Central Issue | 201 | |
Unique Is Still the Bottom Line | 211 | |
Where Is the Focus? | 212 | |
Taking Sides | 213 | |
Children Sometimes Blame Themselves | 214 | |
What Can You Do to Help? | 214 | |
Leslie Gets the Last Word, Too | 215 | |
Part 6 | Closing up Shop | 219 |
Chapter 30 | The "D" Word | 221 |
Illusion of Protection | 222 | |
Solid and Clear Reference Point | 222 | |
Sometimes the World Travels Backward | 223 | |
Talking About Death with Your Child | 224 | |
Curiosity Helps Children Learn | 226 | |
Chapter 31 | Euphemisms + Metaphors = Confusion | 230 |
Chapter 32 | Four Weddings and a Funeral? | 234 |
Forty-five Years Later, but Who's Counting | 237 | |
Chapter 33 | Win-Win | 240 |
Chloe and Carrie Sue and the Real Meaning of Time | 240 | |
Three Generations | 242 | |
Spencer's Accidental Owners | 244 | |
Tuning In to Elizabeth | 247 | |
The Grief Recovery Groupie | 249 | |
Our Completion with You | 252 | |
Questionnaire | 254 | |
Acknowledgments | 261 |
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