The Summons of Love Book

IntroductionLove as an Existential NudgeAn Invitation to Self-ActualizationThe Risks of LoveLove's Panoramic CallingLove as a Gamble1. The Hall of MirrorsThe Quest for WholenessThe Beloved as MirrorThe Pitfalls of NarcissismThe Specificity of DesireThe Speck of Corruption2. The Patterns of PassionThe Compulsion to RepeatRepetition as World-StructuringMissing Our StepRiding the TurbulenceManaging the Repetition3. The Sliver of EternityThe Human and the DivineThe Nick of TimeThe Fall into TendernessThe Process of BecomingThe Reinvention of Identity4. The Midst of LifeThe True SelfThe Touch of MadnessThe Flight from PassionBeyond Romantic NihilismPassion's Enduring Imprint5. The Edge of MysteryThe Enigma of the OtherMessages That MotivateThe Clearing of UnknowabilityThe Softness of SilenceThe Craving for Solitude6. The Ambivalence of IdealsBetween Reality and FantasyThe Generosity of IdealsIdeals That DepleteKeeping Desire AliveLove beyond Ideals7. The Intrigue of ObstaclesJumping HurdlesWhen Satisfaction ThreatensThe Desire to DesireThe Bedrock of DesireLove's Apprenticeship8. The Initiations of SadnessThe Aftermath of LossFrom Sadness to CreativityMoving beyond MelancholiaGiving Up PainThe Wisdom of the Past9. The Lessons of LoveThe Transience of RomanceThe Mission of LoveRespecting Love's RhythmThe Fidelity to LoveLove as a ProcessConclusionThe Ethics of RelationalityA Call for AccountabilitySteering Clear of MasochismThe Other SideContinuing to Care

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