The Mystery of Human Relationship: Alchemy and the Transformation of Self Book

LOVE this book!

A quote from the book: p3
"Transformation within a relationship can only begin with an acknowledgment that we are unconsciously projecting on to the other person, thereby distorting the other's reality and our own. Through the process of projection, we tend to diminish or enhance the identity of others by presuming that we actually know the nature and motivation of their interactions with us. The other person's own reality has little credibility in our mind, but more important, the other's unfathomable nature is not even considered. In other words, through projections, we 'know' only fragments of truth about the other and consequently deny the essence of the other's spiritual being."

and p. 219
"Rarely, if ever, can a person enter the path of creating and transforming a self without the fire and challenge of an ongoing relationship...Any deep relationship has its elements of heaven and hell: but when it is a process characterized by a stability of trust and meaning, hard won through many trails of betrayal and failure to meet the demands of intimacy, a resilient container is created which better enables each partner to live through the turmoil, tragedies, joys, and difficulties of life."