The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long Book

Acknowledgments
Introduction

How to Be a Great Lover in Attitude

1. Falling-in-Love Sex vs. Being-in-Love Sex

2. Sex Beyond Intercourse

3. Give Yourselves Permission

4. Know There Is Always More to Know about Sex

5. Treat Her Like a Lady

6. Gentlemen, Let Her Know You Want to Make Her Come -- Anytime, Anywhere, Anyhow

7. Ladies, Remember That Oral Sex Isn't Just for Dating

8. Let Him Be the Man

9. Stay Current

10. Vulnerability = Value

11. The Legacy of Trusting

12. Relationship As Refuge

13. Intellectual Freedom

14. Cherish

15. Love vs. Lust

16. Stand Up for Your Rights

17. Sowing Roots

18. Frequency Is Dynamic

19. A Calm before the Storm

20. Relish How Your Body Makes Your Lover Feel

21. Are You Willing to Talk Dirty?

22. Are You Open to Enhancers?

23. Great Lover Moment: Great Lovers Are Shrewd Consumers

24. Be Brave Enough to Share Your Innermost Fantasies

25. Be Willing to Change Something about Your Appearance to Suit Your Lover's Preference

26. Be Willing to Listen to Your Lover's Complaints about You

27. Be Gentle When Airing a Disappointment or Hurt Caused by Your Partner

28. Practice Approaching Your Partner from a Point of View of Mutual Respect, Not Blame or Defensiveness

29. The Gift of Giving

30. The Richness of Receiving

31. Great Sex Is Chronologically Ageless

32. Great Lover Moment: "I Still Completely Dig Her"

33. The Crying Connection

34. Touch Your Lover's Heart and Soul

35. Insisting on Being Right Can Kill YourSex Life and Threaten Your Relationship

36. Be Proud of Each Other

37. Never Think of Love As Work

38. Remember That the Way You Treat Him or Her at 8 A.M. Impacts the Way He or She Treats You at 8 P.M.

39. Protect What Is Yours

40. Health Benefits of Frequent Sex

41. Great Lover Moment: "She Rejuvenates Me"

42. Lust's Triumvirate

43. Build a Stone House

44. Accept That Some Problems Can't Be Solved

45. Beyond Orgasms

46. Always Be a Beginner

47. Live in a Culture of Appreciation

48. Nurture Those Values You Have in Common

49. Nurture Those Values Related to Family

50. Nurture Those Values Related to Your Spiritual Life

51. Nurture Those Values Related to Work

52. Nurture Those Values Related to Money

53. Court Your Lover, Forever

54. Je Ne Sais Quoi -- or "I Just Can't Explain It"

55. Seasonal Sex

56. Timetables Are for Trains

57. Enlarge Your Expectations -- for Yourself, Your Lover, and Your Relationship

58. Minimize Your Expectations -- for Yourself, Your Lover, and Your Relationship

59. Let Passion and Sex Be a Reward for You As a Couple, Not a Chore or Obligation

60. Don't Get Carried Away by Performance

61. Make Lovemaking a Conscious Lifestyle Choice

62. You Are Committed 24/7

63. Style Differences

64. Be Honest and Forgiving of Your Own Human Frailties

65. Be Honest and Forgiving of Your Lover's Human Frailties

66. Understand That All Aspects of Your Relationship Affect Your Sexual Relationship

67. Understand That Separating the Various Aspects of Your Relationship Can Put Those Parts at Risk

68. Be Open to "Tune-Ups"

69. Be Willing to Challenge Your Own Sexual Comfort Zone

70. Remember That Just Because It Isn't Important to You Doesn't Mean It Isn't Important to Her

How to Be a Great Lover in Behavior

71. Speak to Each Other As You Did When You First Met

72. Gentlemen, Let Her Know She's Irresistible

73. Ladies, Let Him Know He's Irresistible

74. Great Lover Moment: "I Simply Can't Get Enough of Her"

75. Take the Pulse of a Relationship on an Ongoing Basis

76. Ladies, Acknowledge the Things He Does for You

77. Gentlemen, Pay Deep Attention to Her -- in Whatever Way She Wants

78. Act Quickly to Spot and Fix a Problem

79. Learn from Your Mistakes

80. Be an Explorer

81. No Psychic Sex

82. Seal Your Lips

83. Don't Compare Yourselves to Anyone, Much Less Hollywood Idols

84. Live by Your Own Script, Dance to Your Own Drummer, and Sing Your Own Song

85. Romancing the Stone

86. Never Embarrass Each Other

87. Maintain Your Dignity

88. Diplomatic Corps in the Bedroom

89. Keep Talking

90. Learn How to Compromise

91. Be Tastefully Jealous -- Possess Your Lover Culturally and Socially

92. Don't Push Your Lover's Buttons

93. Arguing Is Not Always a Bad Thing

94. Fight Fair (or Learn How To)

95. Are You Clean Enough?

96. Ask and You Shall Receive

97. Be Patient in Creating Your Relationship Even Though Being Patient May Not Be Your Strongest Virtue

98. Great Lover Moment: Take Your Time

99. Don't Be Susceptible to Instant Gratification

100. Money Is the Third Dynamic of a Relationship

101. Treat Your Relationship Like It Is a Living Thing

102. Support and Respect Each Other's Personal Endeavors

103. Give Each Other Space

104. Fight for Your Relationship in Times of Stress

105. Listen to Your Little Voice

106. Be a Great Toucher

107. Turn Off the TV

108. No Kids in the Bed!

109. Home Is Where the Heart Is

110. Hug Each Other

111. Create Emotional Safety

112. Gentlemen, Remember That Your Fingers and Hands Are a Wonderful Source of Pleasure for Your Lady

113. Turn Complaints into Requests

114. Create Important Moments and Make Memories

115. Make Your Lover Laugh

116. Friends and Family Matter

117. Allow Your Partner to Take Credit for Stories, without Correction or Editing

118. Spend Time Alone

119. Spend Time Alone, Together

120. Dine Together Often

121. Is Your Lover One of Your Top Priorities?

122. Reinvent Dinner

123. Plan Trips

124. Plan Outings

125. Plan Sex!

126. Take Care of Your Body

127. Encourage Your Lover to Take Care of His or Her Body

128. Good Grooming

129. Take Care of Your Emotional and Mental Health

130. Remember to Speak Compliments Out Loud

131. Gentlemen, Always Do What You Say You Are Going to Do

132. Seek Out the Solace of Physical Contact

133. Ladies, Go into His Physical Space and Hug Your Man

134. Cuddle First Thing in the Morning

135. Don't Go Looking for Trouble

136. Buy Each Other Garments That Only the Two of You Will See

137. Give Your Partner Downtime upon Returning Home after Work

138. Don't Keep a Running List of Who Did What to Whom

139. Take Pleasure in the Little Things

The Great Lover Playbook of Tips and Techniques

140. Ladies, Know What Turns Him On

141. Great Lover Moment: "My Dear, I Would Really Like a Slice of Pie Tonight"

142. Gentlemen, Know What Turns Her On