The Everything Orgasm Book: The all-you-need guide to the most satisfying sex you'll ever have Book

Introduction xi

1 The Mystique of Orgasm 1

Describing Orgasm 1

The Meaning of Orgasm 3

Myths about Orgasm 6

Life's Variety 10

The Politics of Orgasm 13

2 Tuning Your Instrument 18

The Body-Mind instrument 18

Sex-Positive and Shame-Free 19

Body Image 25

Good Overall Health 26

Stress Reduction 28

A Strong Pelvic Floor 32

3 The Do Re Mi of Orgasm 36

Her Sexual Anatomy 36

His Sexual Anatomy 45

Human Sexual Response 51

The Body Systems Involved in Sexual Arousal and Orgasm 57

4 Exploring Your Erotic Body-Mind 60

Accepting Your Sexual Self 60

Your Arousal Map 64

Getting Up Close and Personal 67

Getting to Know Your Erogenous Zones 70

5 Practicing Alone or Playing Solo 76

Self-Pleasuring 76

The Basics of Getting Down with Yourself 80

Developing Your Technique 82

A Sacred Solo Ritual 88

6 Harmonizing with Your Lover 93

Loving Yourself 93

Talking about Sex 95

Sexual Relationship Dynamics 99

Intimacy-Enhancing Exercises 103

7 The Art of Sensuality 107

Creating a Sensual Environment 107

Sensual Massage 109

Skin Delicious 113

The Sensual Art of Kissing 115

8 Erotic Play: Building Up the Heat 121

The Art of Seduction 121

Dressing Up (or Down) to Seduce 126

Erotic Talk 128

Erotic Touch 129

Dancing 131

Sharing Fantasies and Role-Play 135

9 You Deserve a Hand: Manual Paths to Orgasm with a Lover 138

Self-Pleasuring with Your Lover 138

Manual Stimulation 142

Bringing Him to Orgasm with Your Hand 145

Bringing Her to Orgasm with Your Hand 148

10 Put Your Body Where My Mouth Is: Oral Paths to Orgasm 152

The Art of Oral Pleasure 152

Fellatio 154

Cunnilingus 159

Variations of Oral Pleasure163

11 Penetration and Orgasms 167

The Act of Penetration 167

Readiness for Penetration 171

So Many Positions, So Little Time 174

The Entry 180

Tips and Techniques for Penetration 181

Is Everybody Coming? 184

12 The Use of Sex Aids 187

Lubricants 187

Sex Toys: Dildos, Vibrators, and More 189

Sex Props and Accessories 199

Aphrodisiacs 201

Music 202

Sexually Explicit Media 203

Erotica 204

13 Special Circumstances 206

Pregnancy 206

Aging 208

Hormone Replacement Therapy 211

Disability, Illness, and Medical Conditions 212

Pre-Orgasmic Women 215

Low Libido 216

Pain with Sex 218

Lack of Ejaculatory Control 218

Erectile Difficulty 220

14 Enhancing Your Orgasms 223

Multiple Orgasms 223

G-Spot Orgasm and Female Ejaculation 225

Power Exchange 227

Expansive Orgasmic Experiences 230

Appendix A Glossary 235

Appendix B Additional Resources 238

Index 241