It's Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay up All Night!: A Guide to the Tougher Parts of Parenting Book

	Introduction	3
1	Nurturing and the Baby Self
	A Potbellied Stove	9
	Love Attachment	10
	The Move Toward Independence	12
	The Baby Self and the Mature Self	13
	The Secret Behind Fussing	16
	The Baby Self's Other Path	19
	Boys and Girls	21
	The Mature Self	22
	Who Gets the Baby Self?	26
	Maturing: How They Become Civilized	29
	What Good Is the Baby Self?	34
	The Problem and What to Do about It	36
	The Wonderful Deal	37
2	Questionable Controls
	Being Reasonable and Listening	39
	Trying to Be Fair	42
	Power Struggles - The Battle of Wills	44
	The Baby Self Inside Parents	48
	The Perils of Teaching	52
	Rewarding	56
	Harsh Punishment	56
	Lesser Punishment	58
3	What You Can Do
	A Different Kind of Tough	60
	How It's Done	62
	Making Your Decisions Stand	71
	Your Own Self-Restraint	101
4	Day In and Day Out
	Whining, Sulking, and Temper Tantrums	111
	When Children Are Angry at Their Parents	121
	Bedtime	125
	Getting Up and Out in the Morning	130
	"I'll Do It Later"	133
	Mealtime	134
	Acting Up in Public	138
	Coming to You with Problems	145
5	Family Disputes
	Fathers and Mothers - Who's in Charge	153
	Playing One Parent against the Other	157
	Parental Arguments	159
	Sibling Fighting	160
	Divorce	175
6	Problems That May Not Be Problems
	Spoiled Children	195
	Lying	197
	Talking Back	206
	Getting in the Last Word	207
	Aggressive Behavior	208
7	More Difficult Problems
	Accepting Too Well	217
	Painful Problems in Their Lives	221
	Sensitive Children	223
	Children Who Worry	225
	Bad Experience in Early Childhood - Trauma	229
	Difficult Children	230
8	The Awesome Task of Parenting
	Conclusion: Having a Childhood	237