How I Find Her Book

This tender memoir explores the complex shifts in relationship between mother and daughter as an elderly mother slowly declines. Zeiger takes an uncompromising look at the caretaker's dilemma as a vibrant mother deteriorates into illness and dementia. 'How I Find Her' articulates a daughter's grief, the struggle of letting go, and the unexpected gift of redemption following her mother's death. A powerfully written and deeply felt testimony on the strongest bond a woman knows- the connection between mother and daughter.'In these cool, metallic days of high-tech work and entertainment, we need to be brought back to human scale, to our basic emotions and relations. As never before we crave the voice of the poet, and there is no better poet to tell us beautifully and poignantly about the death of a parent than Genie Zeiger. To return to strong emotion without sentimentality and to deep human reflection without ideology, read Gene's memoir meditatively. Her words can revive a dormant heart.' -Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul'Whether she's mourning her losses or celebrating her blessings, Genie Zeiger's gorgeous work breaks my heart and opens my heart.' -Sy Safransky, editor The Sun Magazine'Read this book if you want to laugh and cry- perhaps at the same time. Read this if you want to grieve what you have lost, or what you never had. How I Find Her is a deeply moving farewell and a quiet celebration that traces the way suffering helps us to find ourselves. I wish I had readthis book while I was attending my own mother's dying. It's the finest guide I know.' -Pat Schneider, author of Wake Up Laughing: A Spiritual Autobiography

AutUniversity of Massachusetts and an MFA in writing from Vermont College.