From Chaos to Calm: How to Shift Unhealthy Stress Patterns and Create Your Ideal Balance in Life Book

A very validating book, and an incredibly fast read. Explains how men and women deal with stress, with real-life examples that ring so true. Talks about the BIOLOGICAL and biochemical differences between men and women, and for me, learning that some things are biological changes my perspecive a lot. Here are some excerpts I liked from the book:

"Being aware of our innate biochemical differences frees us from the unhealthy compulsion to change our partners and eventually leads us to celebrate our differences."


"Men tend to work best on projects rather than routines, since routines have no clear beginning or end. When a man is tired, a domestic routine is rarely a priority, as it is for a woman."

"When a man takes action to support a woman's needs, she feels supported and her stress goes down. But the opposite is true on Mars. WHen a woman does LESS for him and allows him to do more for her, his stress is lessened. A man's stress is reduced when he feels successful in meeting her needs."

"Men feel needed and women need to feel they are not alone. Just as a woman is happiest when she feels she is getting what she needs from her partner, a man is happiest when he feels successful in meeting her partner's needs. This is an important distinction."

"Just as women need to blet go of expecting men to be perfect, men need to let go of expecting women to think we are perfect. Together we have learned tha our life does not have to be perfect for us to connect and support each other."

"The real reason women are tired today is not because they have too much to do. It is b/c they are not producing enough oxytocin to cope with stress."

Anyway, there are a definitely more points in the book to share, this is just a glimpse as to what this book talks about. I highly recommend it to everyone, just so you understand the opposite gender that much more. Read the Introduction of the book first...(don't skip it) b/c that's what hooked me in.