Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way Book

Wisdom!
Author of The Five Love Languages writes about the emotion anger, why in and of itself it is not a bad thing, then how to handle different types of anger.
How to Handle Your Anger:
1. Consciously acknowledge to yourself that you are angry.
2. Restrain your immediate response.
3. Locate the focus of your anger.
4. Analyze your options.
5. Take constructive action.

I love this quote on forgiveness: "Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment to accept the person in spite of what he or she has done. It is a decision to show mercy"

Anger Agreements in Marriage
1. Acknowledge the reality of your anger, remembering that anger itself is not sinful.
2. Agree to acknowledge anger to each other (don't make them guess).
3. Agree that verbal or physical explosions against the other person are not appropriate reactions- they'll make things worse.
4. Agree to seek an explanation before jumping to conclusions.
5. Agree to seek resolution and reconciliation.
6. Agree to affirm your love for each other.

Helping Your Kids Handle Anger
1. Model healthy behavior.
2. Guide your child through her anger explosions.
3. Give instruction rooted in unconditional love, positive modeling, and loving guidance.

When You're Angry at God
1. Take the anger to Him.
2. Pay attention to where He may be speaking.
3. Report for further duty.

Are You Angry at Yourself?
1. Admit your anger.
2. Examine your anger.
3. If it's valid, confess wrong-doing to God and accept His forgiveness.
4. Choose to forgive rather than berate yourself.
5. Learn from your failures.

Confronting an Angry Person
1. Listen to the person.
2. Listen to the person.
3. Listen to the person.
4. Try to understand, ask yourself if you'd be angry in the same situation.
5. Express your understanding of the situation.
6. Share any additional information that may shed light on the subject.
7. Confess any wrong-doing and seek to make right.