Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Men, Sex, and Love's Deepest Bliss Book

*Update*

Last night I settled down, fully expecting to be up all night enjoying reading Dear Lover. It was such TRIPE. I never thought I could read something that made my eyes roll into my head so HARD! Don't get me wrong, I'm not mad at his basic premise which is that women want to be loved and possessed completely by a man of integrity. But his never-ending descriptions of sex that border on rape fantasy are very disturbing. Not to mention that these descriptions are taken straight from a dime store novel. "His entrance into your body is deep, persistent, creative, unyielding. His strong hands hold your wrists, his belly presses deeply down into yours, his gentle force enters you again and again, opening you, opening places you have never felt to open." o_O Yeah ummmm….ok. I've had a kid; no man is PHYSICALLY getting to any place I don't know about. Now on the mental and spiritual plane I know there are tons of new experiences to be had. His constant reminding that a woman should want to "submit"or "surrender" to her lover was problematic as well. He described it in sexual terms so much that it lost all spiritual and psychological connection for me. He was very clear in WoTSM about how a man should balance the competing forces of his mission and his relationship; NONE of that in Dear Lover.

I knew the structure of this book was letters written to Deida's lover. I was expecting a book that delved into what the "superior woman" should focus on in her life and relationships and how she should deal with the needs and wants of her "superior man". Given the format I figured it would be what the "Superior Man" wants to see in his partner. I was not expecting a bunch of fantastical musings by a man, telling a woman how her orgasm should feel. Are you kidding me!?!?

But you know, as I look at the titles, this wasn't supposed to be a "spiritual" guide for women, and it wasn't. This is one of the few books I've purchased and wanted to return; that's saying something! I won't return it though; I will even re-read it because I'm sure there's something in here of value that I missed during an eye roll. As I said, I really like his basic premise.

My favorite line and one that I will keep in my heart is the way he described a woman's consciousness upon reaching the 3rd and highest level of loving: "I am light. Take me if you dare." Awesome!
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Loved Way of the Superior Man and hope to enjoy this as well. Some reviews I've read make me nervous that won't happen. :-/