Rescue Your Love Life Workbook: Changing Those Dumb Attitudes & Behaviors that Will Sink Your Marriage Book

Contents

Acknowledgments....................ix
Read This First....................1
Dumb Attitude #1 "My Lover Should Make Some Changes"....................5
* Change Yourself, Not Your Lover....................6
* Love Grows When Dependency Goes....................12
* But I'm Not the Immature One....................18
* You Make Me Crazy....................25
* One Person Can't Change Everything, But ....................30
Dumb Attitude #2 "My Lover Should Make Me Happy"....................37
* The Real Scoop About Happiness....................38
* Are They Needs or Desires?....................43
* Stop Looking for Your Other Half....................50
* Self-Denial? You're Joking, Right?....................54
* Lopsided Relationships Take On Water....................60
Dumb Attitude #3 "My Lover Should Be Perfect for Me"....................67
* There Are No Perfect 10s....................68
* Pour On the Grace....................74
* Sometimes Your Lover Needs a Nudge....................82
* Vive les Différences....................87
* Getting to the Heart of Feelings....................92
Dumb Attitude #4 "My Lover Should Never Hurt Me"....................99
* Hurt Happens, But You Can Handle It....................100
* Past Hurts Present Problems....................104
* Accepting Without Approving....................111
* Lovers Can Bring Out the Worst in Each Other....................115
* Resist the Temptation to Cut and Run....................121
Dumb Attitude #5 "My Lover Should Read My Mind"....................129
* Don't Hide Your Feelings....................130
* Choose to FaceReality....................137
* Are You Saying What You Really Mean?....................143
* There's More to Listening than Hearing....................151
* Common Communication Stoppers....................158
Dumb Attitude #6 "My Lover and I Should Never Fight"....................167
* Fighting for a Win-Win Solution....................168
* The Fatal Flaw in Fairness....................173
* Love Is Eternal When Forgiveness Never Ends....................178
* Humility Is a Door, Not a Doormat....................184
* How to Underreact to Overreactions....................190
Dumb Attitude #7 "My Lover Should Trust Me Without Question"....................197
* Trust Is a Risk You Have to Take....................198
* Broken Trust Can Be Repaired....................204
* Trust Thrives on Independence....................210
* A Little Structure Won't Kill Romance....................216
Dumb Attitude #8 "My Lover Should Be Perfect at Sex"....................223
* Good Sex Doesn't Just Happen....................224
* Untangling the "Nots" in Unhealthy Sex....................230
* Keep the Home Fires Burning....................238
* Unfaithfulness Is More than Just Adultery....................246
* Facing Sexual Dysfunction....................250
Conclusion: On to the Rescue....................257
Works Cited....................260