The Heart of Relationship: 5 Ultimate Truths for Understanding the Couple Relationship, 25 Suggestions for Making Your Relationship Work Book

	Forward	9
	Preface	11
	Introduction: Innocent Tourists	15
Book I	Love's Five Ultimate Truths
	The Truth of Struggle & Suffering	18
	The Truth of Fundamental Need & Fear	23
	The Truth of Awareness	28
	The Truth of Self-Care	34
	The Truth of Power & Selflessness	40
	Scenic Views
	Sex & Communication	45
	War of the Sexes	46
	Why Some Survive	48
Book II	Twenty-Five Suggestions
	Reducing Struggle & Suffering in Relationship
	Determine What Means Most to You	54
	Go As Slowly As Possible	56
	Consider an Alternative to Committed Relationship	59
	Marry for the Right Reasons	62
	Do Not Even Think About Having Children	66
	Develop A Solid Economic Foundation Before Having Children	70
	Do Not Collaborate With Abuse	72
	Developing Awareness In Relationship	75
	Don't Leave Your Partner If You're Only Running Away From Yourself	77
	Wake Up From the Nightmare That Your Partner Is Your Original Parent	84
	Do Not Stunt Your Own Growth	89
	Watch Out For Roommate Land	92
	Assume You Contribute 50% To All Couple Dysfunction	94
	Attend To and Resolve Your Own Issues	98
	Plan on Cycles of Withdrawal & Return	100
	Self-Care in Relationship
	Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 1	106
	Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 2: The Magic of Opposites	112
	Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 3: No-Fault	116
	Turn the Great Wheel of Change	121
	Have Your Own Life	124
	Take Significant Comfort Time Alone With Each Other	127
	Love and Accept Yourself	129
	Do Not Expect Too Much of Yourself Too Quickly	131
	Personal Power & Selflessness in Relationship
	Wield Personal Power	135
	Place Yourself In the Arms of the Universe	140
	Give Selfishly	142
	Receive Selflessly	144
	Conclusion
	Committed Relationship	147
	A Note On Psychotherapists	150
	Favorite Quotes	152
	Suggested Reading & Viewing	154