Sold Out
Book Categories |
Three of the hardest words to utter in any language: "I forgive you." We say we forgive, but in the dark of the night, the pain surfaces. We can't seem to erase it from our memories. We want those who hurt us to suffer as we have. Must we be eaten up by pain for the rest of our lives? Is forgiveness just a nice dream? No healthy mind can totally forget a wound that leaves ugly scars, but to remember with a bitter heart is a sign of only partial forgiveness. When You Can't Say "I Forgive You" walks you step-by-step along the path of complete forgiveness: a forgiveness that admits pain, attempts to understand the other person, and finally, lets go. Licensed physician Grace Ketterman validates this counsel by sharing her own shocking story of divorce, shame, and reconciliation. Through her gentle approach, compelling stories, and David's teaching you will discover the power to make it through the process of forgivenesspast the vulnerability, pain, and angertoward a true change of heart.
More than a dozen titles have been published in the last year on forgiveness. What does true forgiveness mean, and how does one achieve it? These two titles attempt to answer those questions and more. Each, in fact, goes so far as to claim that forgiveness is important not only for spiritual but also medical reasons (it lowers blood pressure, for example). The Unburdened Heart focuses on Nelson's five-step formula for complete forgiveness: awareness, validation, compassion, humility, and self-forgiveness. The former professional basketball player and sports writer also considers whether to reconcile with the perpetrator or say goodbye and whether one can still forgive if the apology is insincere. At the core of her compelling narrative is her experience of being sexually abused by her high school coach; at the time, she very much believed his story that they were having an adult affair. While researching a previous book, The Stronger Women Get, the More Men Love Football (LJ 5/15/94), she could not get other coaches to comment on abuse, but here she reconnects with her old coach after 20 years to start the forgiving process. Written in straightforward workbook style, Nelson's text ends with three pages of group discussion questions. Ketterman and Hazard, a speaker/ psychiatrist and an author, respectively, write in a more folksy, storytelling style, but their point is no less convincing. Because they take a Christian stance, their book may be especially helpful to religious counselors; the chapter "A Personal Reckoning" poignantly illustrates what forgiveness means. Like Nelson, Ketterman has a deep personal connection to her topic: she had already divorced her successful husbandwhen he called to tell her that he had been arrested and needed her help. They worked through their problems and remarried after he was released from prison. Both of these titles use forceful personal vignettes to show the process of working through events to exoneration. Nelson's book is better arranged for group work, while Ketterman and Hazard's is more amenable to an individual read.--Lisa Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, NY Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.
Login|Complaints|Blog|Games|Digital Media|Souls|Obituary|Contact Us|FAQ
CAN'T FIND WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR? CLICK HERE!!! X
You must be logged in to add to WishlistX
This item is in your Wish ListX
This item is in your CollectionWhen You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt
X
This Item is in Your InventoryWhen You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt
X
You must be logged in to review the productsX
X
X
Add When You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt, , When You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt to the inventory that you are selling on WonderClubX
X
Add When You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt, , When You Can't Say "I Forgive You": Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt to your collection on WonderClub |