Buddha & the Borderline Book

This is a stunning book. If you have borderline tendencies, or if you are close to anyone who has borderline tendencies, then this is a must read. It contains an amazing proposition for borderlines (through the dialectial behavior therapy), which is to learn to hold two polarities as simultaneous realities of life. For instance learning to feel radical acceptance of the situation you find yourself in, while at the same time learning effective strategies for changing it.

I jotted down these borderline tendencies throughout the book: intense, wildly loving, painfully clinging, impulsive, sensitive, shifting moods, endless grasping, fragility under stress, fragility when feeling unconnected to someone, difficulty being alone, deep need for security, gnawing dissatisfaction with what is. These are one side of the borderline coin, and on the other side are high capacities for empathy, compassion and attachment.