Relationship Rights (and Wrongs): A Guide to the Best Possible Relationship and a Reality check When it Isn't Book

	Foreword	xi
	Human Beings versus Genders: We Honor the Uniqueness of Each Human Being Rather Than Gender Stereotypes	xiii
	Preface: If Relationships Are Important, Why Aren't There Guidelines?	xv
Part 1	The Map to Happily-Ever-After--The Common Elements Found in Most Healthy & Mutually Supportive Relationships
	Our Stories	3
Chapter 1	So You're in a Relationship: Where Are You and Where Do You Want to Go?	7
Chapter 2	A Starting Agreement: The Baseline for Understanding and Communication	15
Chapter 3	How Do You Know Where You Are?: Do You Have a Map to Happily-Ever-After?	25
Chapter 4	Check Your Rights at the Relationship Traffic Light: What Are Your Green, Yellow, and Red Relationship Rights?	29
Chapter 5	Your Personal Rights: Green Rights Go with Your Personal Resources Everywhere, Whether You're in a Relationship or Not	37
	Achievements	47
	Balance	48
	Creativity and Ideas	48
	Dignity	48
	Dreams and Goals	49
	Energy	49
	Family	50
	Feelings	51
	Financial Discretion	52
	Friends	53
	Health	53
	Intelligence	53
	Motivations	54
	Opinions and Tastes	54
	Reality	55
	Safe Haven	56
	Space	56
	Spirituality	57
	Talents and Career	57
	Time	58
Chapter 6	Your Benefit Rights: Yellow Rights Caution: If You Aren't Receiving Enough Relationship Benefits	61
	Acceptance	69
	Acknowledgement	70
	Apologies	70
	Appreciation	70
	Atmosphere	70
	Caring	71
	Cherishing	72
	Commitment	72
	Communication	72
	Companionship	73
	Compromise	73
	Conflict Resolution	73
	Emotional Support	74
	Empathy	74
	Encouragement	74
	Equality	74
	Flexibility	75
	Forgiveness	75
	Friendship	75
	Honesty	76
	Intimacy	76
	Kindness	76
	Love	76
	Mutuality	77
	Optimism	77
	Reliability	77
	Respect	78
	Responsibility Sharing	78
	Sense of Humor	79
	Sensitivity	79
	Sharing	79
	Trust	80
	Understanding	80
	Warmth	80
Chapter 7	Your Safety Rights: Red Rights Stop: Tolerating Harmful Behaviors; You Should Be Safe in a Relationship	83
	Safe from Accusation and Blame	105
	Safe from Anger	106
	Safe from Being Assigned Status	107
	Safe from Black-and-White Thinking	107
	Safe from Button-Pushing and Brainwashing	109
	Safe from Constant Complaining	110
	Safe from Control	111
	Safe from Denial and Avoidance	112
	Safe from Discounting and Diverting	112
	Safe from Entitlement	113
	Safe from Humiliation	114
	Safe from Hurtful Physical or Sexual Behaviors	114
	Safe from Indifference	115
	Safe from Judgment and Criticism	115
	Safe from being Ordered	116
	Safe from being a Possession	117
	Safe from Responsibility for Another's Happiness	117
	Safe from Rewriting History	118
	Safe from Shame and Punishment	119
	Safe from Threats	119
	Safe from Tone of Voice	120
Part 2	Where Are You in Your Relationship? Your Relationship Reality Check
Chapter 8	Your Relationship Guide: Bill of Relationship Rights	123
Chapter 9	Do a Relationship Reality Check: Your Relationship Isn't Perfect, but How Good or Bad Is It?	129
Chapter 10	Understanding the Results of Your Relationship Reality Check: What Your Reality Check Tells You about Your Relationship	145
Chapter 11	Remember, Relationships Work Two Ways! Asking Questions of Ourselves	153
Chapter 12	How Far Is Too Far? Where Do Behaviors Cross the Line?	157
Part 3	Additional Help--Help Yourself, Work with Your Partner, or Ask a Counselor
Chapter 13	The Write Thing: Journaling Ideas	165
Chapter 14	If You Want to Work with a Counselor or Therapist: Not All Therapists Are Alike	171
Appendix A	Resources and Referrals	177
	Help Another Person	185
Appendix B	Bibliography and Suggested Reading	189
	Index	191
	Survey for Our Readers: We Want to Know What You Think	195
	Request Form For More Information or for Ordering	200