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Acknowledgements | i | |
The Color of a Rose | ii | |
Foreword | iii | |
Introduction | v | |
1 | Gee, Toto, I Don't Think We Are In Kansas Anymore! | 1 |
Your hosts, Molly and Philip | 2 | |
About this book | 2 | |
What sadomasochism is | 4 | |
What sadomasochism is not | 6 | |
Scenespeak, learning the lingo | 7 | |
Scene | 8 | |
Playing | 9 | |
Player | 9 | |
Sadomasochism | 9 | |
Dominance and submission | 9 | |
Bondage and discipline | 9 | |
The who's who of SM | 10 | |
Masochist | 10 | |
Dominant | 11 | |
Submissive | 11 | |
Natural submissives and dominants | 12 | |
Tops and bottoms | 13 | |
Switch | 13 | |
Professional female dominants | 15 | |
Fetishist | 15 | |
Sub-Chapter XY - Gender and sexual orientation | 15 | |
Pronoun, pronoun, who's got the pronoun? | 16 | |
The gay SM scene | 16 | |
Simple starts, safe starts | 16 | |
2 | Sexual Magic Why We Do Do That Voodoo | 18 |
Trust and communication | 24 | |
Talking | 24 | |
Learning the body you want to bludgeon | 26 | |
The mind as an erogenous zone | 27 | |
Anticipation | 27 | |
Conditioning -- Three ways to Skinner a pussy | 28 | |
Visualization -- Scheherazade goes dom | 29 | |
Sensory relocation | 31 | |
Dominance and submission | 31 | |
3 | The Politics of Very Strange Bedfellows Sensible SM Relationships and Dangerous Liaisons | 34 |
Steering your love-boat into the rapids | 34 | |
With 31 flavors available, why serve only vanilla? | 36 | |
Catching a live one | 37 | |
The Law of supply and demand | 38 | |
What to look for | 40 | |
Looking for Mr. Good-dom | 40 | |
Seeking suitable submissives | 41 | |
The hunt | 42 | |
Organizations & support groups | 42 | |
Public clubs | 42 | |
Magazine and newspaper ads | 43 | |
Kink goes electronic | 43 | |
Would-bes, Wannabes, and other forgettable characters | 45 | |
The downside of the subside | 47 | |
Safety suggestions for meeting through ads or BBS's | 48 | |
Mistress Manners | 49 | |
4 | "You Want To Worship My What???" Negotiation and Relationships | 51 |
Compatibility | 52 | |
The Ideal Dominant | 53 | |
The Ideal Submissive | 54 | |
Negotiating sex in SM | 55 | |
Levels of dominant and submissive power exchange | 56 | |
Level 1 | Conditional Compliance | 57 |
Level 2 | Restricted Ongoing Acquiescence | 57 |
Level 3 | Provisional Submission | 58 |
Level 4 | The Covenant of Dominance and Submission | 58 |
Level 5 | Absolute Ownership | 59 |
Ownership and Lifestylers | 59 | |
The three biggest lies | 61 | |
Abusive relationships | 62 | |
Limits - The lines never to be crossed | 63 | |
Safe words | 64 | |
Contracts and agreements | 65 | |
Sample contract of submission | 66 | |
Negotiation Questionnaire | 66 | |
5 | Straight Facts and Bent Phalluses Sexual Attitudes | 69 |
No goals, no roles | 71 | |
Philip's Tree House: !!!No Girls Allowed!!! | 71 | |
A word about approach | 73 | |
Sign language | 73 | |
Rediscovering the joys of the flesh | 74 | |
Molly's notes from the quilting bee | 75 | |
Busting barriers | 77 | |
6 | Non-Government Sanctioned Sex and Torture | 78 |
Clips, clamps, and clothespins | 78 | |
Fire and ice | 80 | |
Electro-torture | 81 | |
The cutting edge | 82 | |
Anal play, general considerations | 83 | |
Anal sex | 84 | |
Anal training and object stimulation | 85 | |
Self-training for anal play | 86 | |
Enemas | 86 | |
Feeding the pussy syntho-meat | 88 | |
Fisting | 89 | |
Forced sex (never say never) | 90 | |
Smoke and Mirrors | 90 | |
7 | Get Them By the Balls; Their Hearts and Minds Will Follow Bondage Theory | 93 |
First, you need a plan | 95 | |
Bondage safety | 95 | |
Ten rules to be bound by | 96 | |
Anatomy for safer bondage | 99 | |
Emergency quick release | 100 | |
Novice bondage | 101 | |
The first session | 101 | |
The second session | 103 | |
The tournament of wills | 104 | |
The third and all the rest of your sessions | 106 | |
8 | Of Humane Bondage Bondage Techniques | 107 |
Bonds that tie | 107 | |
Finishing the rope | 108 | |
Knots | 109 | |
Releasing your victim | 112 | |
A simple wrist bondage | 113 | |
Crossed ankle bondage | 114 | |
Breast bondage | 115 | |
Oriental rope dress | 116 | |
Hints | 119 | |
Variations | 119 | |
Rope alternatives | 119 | |
Plastic wrap bondage | 120 | |
Wrist and ankle cuffs | 121 | |
Bondage harness and collars | 123 | |
Blindfolds | 123 | |
Gags | 124 | |
A cloth gaggage primer | 126 | |
Hoods and sensory deprivation | 128 | |
Spandex | 128 | |
Specialty items | 129 | |
Simple solutions for attachments | 130 | |
9 | Philip's Philosophy of Phlogging Phun The Corporal Dimension | 132 |
Environment | 132 | |
Beginning a session | 133 | |
Positioning | 134 | |
Bondage and Whipping | 135 | |
Beginning | 136 | |
Ending a scene | 137 | |
Kneeling before the lash | 137 | |
Philip's ten commandments of flagellation | 138 | |
I. | Thou shalt never strike thine submissive in anger | 139 |
II. | Thou shalt not damage thine sub. Knoweth the difference between hurt and harm | 139 |
Marking | 140 | |
Reading the submissives's butt after a scene - a chart | 141 | |
III. | Thine sub and thee shalt negotiate thoroughly and each shall respecteth the limits of the other | 142 |
IV. | Learneth well the anatomy of thine targets | 142 |
V. | Thou shalt abide by SM safety rules and practices | 143 |
VI. | Knoweth intimately the feel, range, and effect of each of thine implements of destruction. It is better for all to receive before one gives | 143 |
How does it feel? | 143 | |
Orchestrating your percussion | 144 | |
VII. | Thou shalt develop proper stance and technique | 145 |
VIII. | Seeketh an expert's advice, training, and counsel for the weapons you would master | 145 |
IX. | Thou shalt Practice! Practice! Practice! and use upon a fanny only those toys with which thou art an expert | 145 |
X. | Never stop watching! Focus is next to godliness | 145 |
10 | When the Inner Child Deserves a Spanking Philip's (and Phriend's) Phurther Pheelings on Phlogging | 146 |
Preparing the skin for a beating | 146 | |
Where to hit - a chart | 148 | |
The warm up | 150 | |
Warming up for a heavy scene | 150 | |
Spanking | 151 | |
Paddling | 152 | |
Face slapping | 153 | |
Caning and cropping | 153 | |
Flogging | 154 | |
Cat-anatomy | 154 | |
Flogger or cat? | 155 | |
How to practice whipping | 155 | |
Let this be a lesson to ya: A tutorial on using the cat-style whip, or flogger | 156 | |
Stance | 156 | |
The strokes | 156 | |
Forehand overhead stroke | 157 | |
Backhand overhead stroke | 160 | |
Figure-eight Stroke | 160 | |
Tips and traps | 160 | |
The single-lash whip | 162 | |
Bullwhips are not only at home on the range | 162 | |
11 | It's Only Pain, Dear, and It's Only Yours Why Take A Long Road To Enlightenment, When You Can Haul Ass On A Super Highway? | 168 |
Flying: "ground control to Master Tom" | 171 | |
The maiden voyage of rocket Molly | 176 | |
Endorphin highs and other vacation spots | 177 | |
Reprise; tops, bottoms and switches | 181 | |
"Ouch... Mmmmmmmmmmmm!" Experiencing pain as pleasure | 181 | |
12 | Making the Upper Cheeks Red Embarrassment, Humiliation and the Mind Fuck | 184 |
Politically incorrect but emotionally valid | 190 | |
Verbal abuse | 191 | |
Humiliation | 191 | |
Mindfuck, not mental rape | 193 | |
Exhibitionism | 194 | |
Public play | 194 | |
Dressing | 195 | |
Sexual denial, the ultimate weapon | 197 | |
Emotional growth through SM | 199 | |
Has anyone seen my self-esteem? - A search for myself | 199 | |
13 | Furnishing Your Dungeon | 201 |
Where to play while the castle is being repainted | 201 | |
Life with children | 202 | |
Hanging slaves and other decorative touches | 203 | |
Recycling Aunt Sophie's ottoman, or, why buy a rack with a perfectly good workbench in the basement? | 204 | |
A dungeon tour | 204 | |
Just for the dungeon | 210 | |
The torture group | 212 | |
The bondage group | 213 | |
The sex-toy group | 214 | |
The hitting group | 215 | |
Where to get your goodies | 218 | |
Found objects | 219 | |
Traveling with toys | 220 | |
Making your own toys | 221 | |
Leather tips | 221 | |
Designs | 221 | |
Glossary | 226 | |
Appendix A | SM Support Groups and Organizations | 241 |
Appendix B | Stores, Suppliers, and Artisans | 252 |
Appendix C | Computer Bulletin Boards | 268 |
Appendix D | SM and Fetish Magazines | 269 |
Appendix E | Recommended Reading | 271 |
Appendix F | NLA Statement On Domestic Violence | 273 |
Index | 274 |
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