Black masculinity Book

This book was a lifeline for me during a verbally abusive relationship I was struggling with. What Lundy says is so spot on, that you get a sense he has been a fly on the wall in your house, quietly listening and taking notes, for years. The other thing that struck me is just how very boring and predictable my partner's abusive behaviour was. I was never in any physical danger so my comments only apply to my situation but, once the scales fell from my eyes, nothing my partner said could ever hurt me again, because I'd figured out his game. Once I knew what to look for - tactics such as dismissing, distorting, diminishing, avoiding, passive aggression etc - it just did not affect me anymore. In my case the relationship ended once my partner realised that he no longer had the power to make me feel negatively about myself, but by that time, thanks to Lundy's book, I had already figured out that the man I thought I had fallen in love with never actually existed.

This book is life altering.