Friends & lovers Book

"Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun.

To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over
your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor to the
last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving
back--in many ways it is a feast fit for a king.

The chief drawback is what you are wolfing down is yourself.

The skeleton at the feast is you."

Frederick Buechner

This quote says it all.

Luskin helped me to see that any grievance or grudge, no matter how small, when it takes up room in your mind, prevents you from totally being in the moment and enjoying your life.
His techniques on how to let the grievance go are very helpful.

After learning the "Sedona Method", where they tell you to just "let it go", it is nice to have specific tools to help including:

Breath of Thanks, Heart Focus, PERT and HEAL. They are all effective.

The bottom line is if you want to feel better, you need to forgive even the smallest slight. Your distress is coming from the upset you are feeling now, now what offended you in the past. That includes forgiving yourself as well.

As the famous saying goes: "Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past".