Why Can't I Get What I Want?: How to Stop Making the Same Old Mistakes and Start Living the Life That You Love Book

	Foreword	ix
	Preface	xi
	Acknowledgments	xv
	Is This Book for You?	1
Chapter 1	Why You Do What You Do: Schemas as the Key to Self-Understanding	5
Chapter 2	Why You Keep Getting the Opposite of What You Want: Paradox and Chaos Applied to Schemas	21
Chapter 3	Self-Assessment in the Self-Worth Zone	37
Chapter 4	Self-Assessment in the Empowerment Zone	63
Chapter 5	Self-Assessment in the Relationship Zone	89
Chapter 6	Where It All Began: Schema Origins	117
Chapter 7	That Often Overlooked Step: Preparation for Change	135
Chapter 8	Adaptive Schemas in the Self-Worth Zone	155
Chapter 9	Adaptive Schemas in the Empowerment Zone	187
Chapter 10	Adaptive Schemas in the Relationship Zone	215
Chapter 11	Dismantling Maladaptive Schemas	241
Chapter 12	Scrutinizing Thoughts and Schemas	271
Chapter 13	Where Do You Go from Here? Wrapping It All Up	287
Appendix A	Schema Continua in the Life Zones	299
Appendix B	Schema Diary	305
Appendix C	Schema Development Worksheet	307
	References and Further Readings	309
	About the Authors	311
	Index	313