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I had read Stephanie Golden's previous book, "The Women Outside: Meanings and Myths of Homelessness," and so I went into "Slaying the Mermaid: Women and the Culture of Sacrifice" knowing what a powerful writer she is. After reading this book, I can't get the concepts out of my mind. Things happen in my life, and I think about the book, and use its perspectives to direct me. A life of self-sacrifice as a feminine ideal was something I hadn't thought much about-- just something I accepted. Golden's book has opened my mind to the distinction between constructive self-sacrifice, and habitual sacrifice that simply drains a woman. She offers examples from real women throughout the book and it makes her concepts come to life. I was especially enlightened by her discussions on women and pain, and scapegoating and power. I am using her guidance to re-examine sacrifice in my own life, and she has given me insight and courage to make appropriate changes. This book came at the perfect time and I appreciate the gift it has been to me.