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"At bottom, healing the wounded father is a process of untangling the myths and fantasies sons learn growing up about self, mother and father, which we act out every day with bosses, wives, and children. It means constructing a satisfying sense of manhood both from out opportunities in a time of changing sex roles and by "diving into the wreck" of the past and retrieving a firm, sturdy appreciation of the heroism and failure in our fathers' lives.