A Teen's Guide to Living Drug Free Book

	Acknowledgments	xvii
	Introduction	xxi
	A Special Word from the Authors	xxvii
Unit I	You Don't "Use": Here's Why to Keep it that Way
1.	Living Life Drug-Free: The Rewards Are Real--And You're Worth It!
	Finally--I've Got a Life!	3
	Be Smart--Don't Mess Up; Say "Yes!" to (Your) Life	6
	Great Reasons to "Just Say Yes" to Life--Drug-Free	8
	Questions to Think About	10
2.	How to Say "NO!"--Even When Your Friends Are "Using"
	Friendly Persuasions	11
	When There's More Than "Just" About Saying "No"	16
	Cool--And Persuasive--Ways to Say "No" to Using	17
	What Is Your Comeback When You're Being Enticed to Use?	21
	Questions to Think About	23
3.	Can "Just a Little Bit" Hurt?
	Back on Track--Even at the Beach	25
	Do the Math! Real Reasons "a Little Bit" Can Hurt	29
	Are There Any Parts of Your Life You'd Be Willing to Forfeit?	30
	You're a Smart Teen: Make a Smart Choice	34
	Questions to Think About	34
Unit II	If you (or a Friend or Family Member) are Using, Here's What you Should Know
4.	Plain Facts About Drugs and Their Effects
	When I Come Knocking ... Knocking ... Knocking ...	37
	Drugs and Their Effects	39
	Where to Learn More About Drugs--And How to Break Free of Them	59
	Questions to Think About	61
5.	Do You (or Someone You Know) Have a "Problem"?
	Alien Abduction	63
	Crossing the Line: What's the Difference Between "Using" and "Addiction"?	68
	The Vicious Cycle of Chemical Dependency: Why It's Tough to Stop--Even When You Want To	71
	Why Is Addiction Called a "Disease"?	74
	How to Get Help	76
	Questions to Think About	77
6.	Ties That Bind: How "Using" Makes Each Member of Your Family "Sick"
	Jekyll and Hyde--And the Rest of Us	79
	Addiction: A Family Disease	84
	Is Someone in Your Family "Changing"?	85
	What Does It Mean to Be a Codependent?	86
	How to Talk to Your Family So They'll "Hear" What You'd Like to Tell Them	88
	Questions to Think About	91
7.	If a Friend or Family Member Is Using, What Can You Do?
	Catch Me--If You Can!	93
	If Someone You Care About Is Using, Consider This Before You Say, or Do, Anything	96
	What Is an "Intervention"--And How Does It Work?	98
	Doing an Intervention with a Professional Counselor	100
	"Tough Love": Three Important Reasons to Be "Tough" with Someone Who Is Using	101
	When It's Time to "Detach and Let Go"	104
	Are You Feeling Overwhelmed and Drained by Your Friend or Family Member's Use? Where to Turn for Help and Support--For Yourself	104
	Questions to Think About	106
Unit III	You Want to Stop Using: What to do and How to do it
8.	Denial: Are You Kidding Yourself About "I Can Stop Anytime I Want"?
	"If Her Mouth Is Moving, She's Lying,"	109
	Denial: "Don't Even 'No' I Am Lying"	115
	Was the Lead Singer Really Singing Right to You? How (and Why) We Lie to Ourselves	117
	Are You "Willing to Be Willing"? Getting Help and Support	120
	Questions to Think About	121
9.	"Hitting Bottom": What Will It Take for You to Stop Using?
	"Bottoms Up!"	123
	When "Enough!" Is Absolutely, Completely and Totally Enough!	129
	Four Ways to "Hit Bottom"	131
	Why You Shouldn't (Necessarily) Interfere with Someone's "Hitting Bottom"	133
	Questions to Think About	135
10.	Tired of Your "Reasons" for Using? Taking Responsibility for Turning Your Life Around
	Flipped Off--For the Last Time	137
	Taking Stock: Is the Finger Pointing at You?	140
	Nine Things You Can Do to Turn Your Life Around	141
	Questions to Think About	144
11.	Why "White-Knuckling It" Isn't Enough: Abstinence Versus Recovery
	Dear Crystal...	145
	Which Is Better, a "Drunken Horse Thief" or a "Sober Horse Thief"?	147
	Seven Goals for Moving Forward in Your Recovery	149
	Questions to Think About	152
12.	Getting Help: Types of Programs to Help You Get and Stay Clean
	"24-7,"	155
	Three Important Reasons to Attend a Treatment Program	160
	Types of Treatment Programs: Choosing One That Is Best and Right for You	162
	Referrals and Resources to Find Help Near You	169
	Questions to Think About	172
Unit IV	You're Clean and Sober: How to Stay That Way
13.	A Road to Recovery: Walking the Twelve-Step Program
	"No Offense, But...,"	175
	A Twelve-Step Program: How It Works and How You Work It	180
	What Is a "Sponsor," and How Do You Get One?	181
	What Happens at Twelve-Step Meetings--And What Can You Expect When You Attend?	183
	Who Attends the Meetings?	184
	How Is a Meeting Run?	184
	Why Is It Called a "Spiritual" (Not Religious) Program?	185
	The Twelve Steps and What It Means to "Work" Them	186
	Questions to Think About	191
14.	How to Get Out from Under the Jaws, Claws--And PAWS--Of Drugs
	The Nudge from the Judge	193
	Why Is There "Withdrawal"?	196
	Watching Out for the Claws of PAWS (Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome)	198
	Six Ways to De-Claw PAWS	201
	Questions to Think About	203
15.	Overcoming Shame: Have You Done Some Awful Things?
	"Sick" Secrets	205
	Have You Done Things for Which You Are Truly Ashamed?	211
	Ten Ways to Let Go of Shame--And Get On with Your Life	213
	Seven Suggestions for Where to Safely Share Your Secrets	218
	Questions to Think About	221
Unit V	You've Relapsed--Now What?
16.	Relapse: How to Learn from Yours and Avoid a Repeat Performance
	Lost Love x 2	225
	What Is Relapse?	228
	Seven Ways Relapse Begins Before You Use	230
	Ten Ways to Prevent Relapse	234
	Questions to Think About	236
17.	Know Where the Monsters Sleep: What Triggers Your Using?
	"Sooner or Later, You're Going to Get a Haircut"	237
	Four Relapse Triggers--And How to Avoid Them	239
	A Checklist to Identify Your Triggers	242
	Six Things You Can Do to Send Your Monsters Packing	245
	Questions to Think About	248
18.	Tools for Traveling the Road of Recovery
	How I Silenced "the Committee"	249
	"Voice-Overs": Three Tools for Staying Clean and Sober	252
	Emergency Support Slip	259
	Sobriety Success Schedule	262
	Questions to Think About	263
19.	Surviving Feelings and Problems--Staying Clean and Sober
	California Sunshine	265
	Three Tools for "Surviving" Your Feelings	268
	The A + B = C Test for Clear Thinking	269
	Understanding and Reaching Resolution	270
	Applying "One Day at a Time"	272
	Questions to Think About	276
Unit VI	Your Personal--and Private--Journal
20.	How Journaling Can Help You Survive Your Feelings
	Why Should You Journal?	281
	When Is the Best Time to Journal?	282
	How to Use This Journal	283
	My Thoughts on ... Living Drug-Free	284
	My Thoughts on ... Using	290
	My Thoughts on ... Making the Decision to STOP Using	298
	My Thoughts on ... Staying Clean and Sober	305
	My Thoughts on ... Relapse and Prevention	310
	Epilogue	323
	Appendix
	Emergency Support Slip	326
	Sobriety Success Schedule	327
	The Twelve Steps	328
	Resources and Referrals	329
	Suggested Readings	333