The Best Kept Secret: Single Black Fathers Book

This book has broken me down in many places. There are many things I thought I had healed only to find out that the wounds have been weakly stitched. The abandonment issue is real and something to be dealt with, especially when it comes creeping up in the most intimate moments of our relationships. I am glad that I now have the means to articulate the struggles and fears that I've encountered throughout the years.
Now, all I ask for, are viable solutions to the "problem" of being without a father. I do not get too much of that throughout the book and as a result am sometimes left feeling like a victim with no cure. If anyone has any insight, please share.