The Birth of Pleasure: A New Map of Love Book

Gilligan describes something I've perceived in the dance of male/female relationships -- the emotional disconnect that takes place and the ways they've come about. I will re-read this book. My first impression is that "Pleasure" should actually read "joy" and be related to an inner state, an inner marriage and not the relationship with another. Once the inner marriage between the opposites takes place, this gives birth to joy and contentment. When two people who have done their inner work and realized this marriage come together, then it might be possible to have a real, equal love and healthy marriage between two people and not just experience the disconnect of being an object of another's imagination.