The Council of Dads: My Daughters, My Illness, and the Men Who Could Be Me Book

I think I bought this accidentally whilst purchasing another of the author's books. A father of twin 3-year olds, this is the story of a man recently diagnosed with an aggressive bone sarcoma. Agonizing about his uncertain future, Bruce is worried sick that his girls will not remember him. Having led an adventurous life, and being a prolific writer, he asks six men to prepare to mentor his girls in case of his demise. He describes how he came to choose these particular men, each a colorful chapter. Bruce alternates chapters with letters he wrote to them all during his 2 year journey. This included aggressive chemotherapy and then radical surgery to remove 9 inches of his femur. It is a beautiful memoir, as the recovery changes the way he views the world and life. Bruce writes beautifully and emotionally about what it means to be a father, husband, child, and friend to those who we love. His Jewish southern roots are colorful and interesting.

Having 3 children of my own, it gave me ideas of how I might use my own "council" of friends and families to mentor my own children. Telling one's story is a gift to the next generations, and it is my belief everyone should always be writing our memories (ok, I'm not following my own advice yet). Though my children are older, the idea that they could learn about my wife and I from trusted friends is appealing - people who can bring different perspectives on their parents as real people, and some history of where they came from.

This would be a great read for anyone going through a frightening time of illness, pondering one's death. I've always been preoccupied with my own death, this awareness giving color and presence to every moment of life, so this one resonated. I have more from Bruce to read, and love his talent and freshness of ideas. He is truly an inspiration.